Is a wedding an obligatory and necessary ritual before starting a family? Does future life together depend on the event dedicated to the wedding? - we asked these questions to the Head of the wedding agency Wedding Consult, Ksenia Afanasyeva.
For many people, a wedding is truly a global, grandiose, long-awaited and very important event in life. Working at the agency, we study public opinion and collect sociological surveys on the topic - did you have a wedding and how strong is your union.
Of the clients of our wedding agency, over the 5 years of the company’s existence, only one family has broken up, and that was due to a change of place of residence. So, I can say with confidence that wedding is the key to a strong family! According to surveys conducted by independent experts, every 4th couple who registered a marriage without holding a wedding celebration has already broken up.
Apparently, the fact that when newlyweds seriously decide to enter into a civil union, the wedding is a way of making this decision official, as well as a stage of testing their relationship at the everyday level, also plays a role. After all, preparing for a wedding is a rather complex and labor-intensive event that takes a huge amount of time, nerves and money. By solving pre-wedding problems, the bride and groom get to know each other better in everyday life and draw appropriate conclusions. Wedding planners often observe friction and disagreements arising during wedding preparations; if the couple has found a compromise, this is a good sign for the future family.
So, everything related to the concept of “wedding” consists of about two dozen small wedding stages that future newlyweds should know about:
STAGE 1 - Marriage proposal.
The groom, having decided to propose, must understand that this is a serious step for both parties and it needs to be properly formalized. If you want to save money on this tradition of marriage proposals, then you can simply buy a gorgeous bouquet of flowers and one fine evening, when you go on a date with your beloved, say important and touching words... And if the groom decides to approach the issue solidly and thoroughly, then it is advisable find out what size rings your beloved wears and buy an engagement ring at a jewelry store. A popular option for an engagement ring is a smooth ring with one diamond. If this option is too banal, then you can choose any other ring, with any stone and any design, the main thing is to guess the bride’s taste. After all, the bride will need to wear this ring all the time before the wedding as a sign of the official engagement.
During the marriage proposal, the bride, if she is completely confident in her answer, should immediately inform the groom about her decision; if not, then it is advisable to set a deadline for an exact answer or talk about her reasons for refusal.
STAGE 2 - Engagement.
Previously, engagement was a mandatory procedure before the wedding. The groom was obliged to announce his serious intentions to the bride's parents, talk about plans for future family life and assure the parents that their daughter was being handed over to reliable hands. Nowadays, everything has been simplified; if you still want to show respect to the bride’s parents, then it is advisable to choose a day and invite them to a meeting to announce your news. During the meeting, the groom must ask for their daughter's hand in marriage and promise to take care of her, love her and respect her. The bride, agreeing with the groom's proposal, must confirm to her parents the seriousness of mutual intentions.
STAGE 3 - Bachelor and bachelorette parties.
In the modern world, every young couple interprets this event differently. Bachelor and bachelorette parties can take place in any format, in any place and at any time; there are only two obligatory conditions for this event - the absence of the female/male half of society, with the exception of, of course, the entertainment program and its holding before the wedding. It is desirable, of course, that this event should not take place on the eve of the wedding, so that the bride and groom are fresh and rested the next morning, and also that the format of these events does not violate the moral and ethical standards of their future life together.
STAGE 4 - Preparation for the wedding.
If the groom proposed and received a positive response, then it’s time to start preparing for the wedding. It is not necessary to wait to submit an application to the registry office, which occurs 2 months before the wedding. This short period of time may not be enough for high-quality elaboration of all the wedding details, for the selection of all the wedding services necessary for the celebration, and it’s simply better not to rush in such matters and, having a huge selection of different services, make the right choice. If you don’t have the experience or time to organize your own wedding, then you can entrust this to professionals in the wedding industry, for example, a wedding agency. After all, this is not the first time that the employees of this organization have held such an event and have a huge number of solved problems and tasks to their credit. In addition, the wedding planner will control everything that happens on the wedding day from morning to night, and you will not have to fuss and be nervous on the holiday.
STAGE 5 - Choosing a wedding dress.
Before the wedding, the groom should not see the bride’s wedding dress, that is, not participate in its selection, fitting and demonstration to friends. A wedding dress is a mysterious attribute of a young bride; it symbolizes purity, tenderness and emphasizes the uniqueness of each chosen one.
The wedding dress is put on the bride by her close friends or mother on the day of the event. A wedding dress, especially for a wedding, must be complemented by a veil. It can be either short and light or long and studded with rhinestones, pearls and exquisite embroidery. Veils are often passed down from generation to generation, from one bride to another. If the bride finds it difficult to choose a decent and suitable dress and accessories for it, then you can resort to the help of a professional wedding consultant; he will be able to evaluate the quality of tailoring and fabric, the design of the dress and its suitability to your person. And it is very important to remember that cost does not mean the best; a professional stylist will always select the most suitable dress at the most reasonable price.
STAGE 6 - Choosing a wedding suit.
The groom's suit (tailcoat or tuxedo) can be chosen by the newlyweds together. Knowing the style of her wedding dress, the bride can choose the appropriate outfit for the groom. If you find it difficult to choose a decent and suitable suit and accessories for it, then you can seek the help of a professional wedding consultant; he will be able to evaluate the quality of tailoring and fabric, the design of the suit and its suitability to your person. And it is very important to remember that cost does not mean the best; a professional stylist will always select the most suitable suit at the most reasonable price.
STAGE 7 - Preparing the bride's dowry.
Previously, a wedding tradition was that the bride must have a dowry. Nowadays this is no longer considered a mandatory attribute; instead of collecting a dowry, the bride’s parents can help the groom and share the wedding budget, paying, for example, for wedding dresses or wedding transport. In any case, no matter what the modern world dictates, parents can prepare the bride’s dowry, or they can simply provide financial assistance.
STAGE 8 Selecting wedding transport.
It was always believed that the bride and groom should go to the registry office in different cars; there was a bride’s cortege, where only her friends and relatives were traveling, and there was a groom’s cortege. Nowadays, everything has become much simpler - if you have the desire and opportunity to go to the registry office in different cars, for example a white and black limousine, then you are welcome, but if you decide to save money or cannot live without each other for a minute, then it is better to take one beautiful car for two. It’s just important to remember that in addition to you, it is advisable to place a photographer and videographer there, who can take touching shots of wedding moments. Now you also have to take care of transporting your guests to the registry office and further along the wedding route.
As for the design of the wedding procession, it is not at all necessary to put banal dolls of the bride and groom on the hood (unless you are having a retro wedding, of course) and hang tricolor ribbons; wedding agency managers will offer you a variety of exquisite and non-standard vehicle decorations with fresh flowers in the shape of hearts or rings For stylish couples, there are options for having their names depicted in flowers on their cars. A fashionable trend in the design of a wedding procession has become the production of personal signs with the names of the newlyweds, for example, MARIA + PAVEL or simply with the inscription JUST MARRIED.
STAGE 9 - Selection of wedding rings.
Rings have always been a mandatory attribute of weddings and subsequent family life. Therefore, when choosing rings, you need to understand that this is not a jewelry trinket, but your everyday accessory. Don’t focus on design and popular brand, choose according to comfort and suit your lifestyle. Wedding rings can be made of white or yellow gold, or they can combine several shades of the precious metal. Previously, wedding rings were without jewelry, but now modern fashion trends dictate the presence of 1 or several diamonds on the bride’s ring. To make your ring personal for life and different from a million other rings, get an engraving on the inside. The inscription on the ring can be completely different, for example “I LOVE YOU”, “MARY + PAUL”, “FOREVER TOGETHER” or simply the wedding date.
Don’t be upset if one of your wedding rings turns out to be too small or too big; now there are many jewelry workshops where they will adjust your size for a small fee in a short time. And in expensive jewelry stores, engraving and resizing are done completely free of charge.
STAGE 10 - Selecting witnesses for the wedding.
Several years ago, our country abolished the legal function of certifying a marriage during registration. Now you can choose and appoint any close friends and relatives as witnesses, but apart from the very name “Witness of the Bride and Groom,” they will not play any role in the registry office, but at the banquet they can even help you a lot. For example, if the bride’s shoes were stolen, or even worse, the bride herself, then it’s not just the groom who can take the rap, but his witness. Many modern couples, in order not to single out only one person close to the bride and groom, appoint friends as “Bridesmaids” and “Friends of the Groom”. To do this, in the European style, identical suits and dresses are made for them and they stay close to the newlyweds all day, participate in photo and video sessions, and also take the initiative at the wedding banquet.
STAGE 11 - Selecting and throwing the bride's bouquet.
Just like wedding rings, the bride's bouquet is a mandatory attribute of the bride, only it is distinguished by its short life.
The bride's bouquet is always chosen differently, sometimes the bride instructs the groom to do this and thus show her taste and creativity, and most often the bride herself or with the help of a wedding consultant makes the choice of the bouquet. The composition of the flowers of the wedding bouquet, its shape and color depends on the color of the bride’s hair, on the design and style of her dress, on the season and of course on the budget. When choosing a bouquet, a boutonniere is selected for the groom; this is a small flower or a composition of flowers, specially designed for the groom’s jacket. The groom's boutonniere must match the color and type of flowers in the bride's bouquet; it is advisable to use artificial boutonnieres in extreme cases.
Whatever bouquet you choose, it is very important to remember that at the end of the evening you will definitely have to part with it. The bride usually throws her bouquet to her unmarried bridesmaids before leaving. The friend who catches the wedding bouquet and becomes the next bride. Some brides, in order to avoid separation from their wedding bouquet, ask the organizers to order one more additional bouquet for throwing - a mini copy of the original. And brides who want to please all their bridesmaids and not deprive anyone of a bouquet, order a bouquet consisting of several mini bouquets, and at the moment of throwing it breaks into 5 identical parts.
STAGE 12 - Buying and throwing a bride's garter.
A bride's garter is usually bought for the sole purpose of allowing the groom to throw it to his single friends at the end of the holiday. The friend who catches the garter will be the next candidate for marriage. To avoid an incident when the groom is looking for a lost garter under the bride’s dress, it should be put on right before the start of the action, otherwise it will be awkward. To remove the garter, the bride usually sits down on a chair, and the groom, with his hand, carefully pulls the garter off his legal wife to the music. After the presenter's command, the groom throws the garter to the assembled male audience.
STAGE 13 - Selecting and cutting the wedding cake.
Cake is one of the most long-awaited and delicious attributes of a wedding celebration. A wedding cake usually has several tiers, most often from 3 to 10. The weight of a wedding cake is calculated taking into account 100 g per person, it can be more, but the main thing is not less. A wedding cake reflects the taste of the newlyweds, not only in terms of composition, but also in appearance. It can be of any color, match the style of the celebration, be of any shape, for example, in the shape of a heart or a limousine. The names of the newlyweds or wishes can be written on the cake. It can be decorated with cream roses or marzipan monograms, edible beads or meringue bows. On the top tier it is customary to place a figurine of the bride and groom or, as before, swans. You can abandon the banal solution and sprinkle the cake with edible flowers on top. The newlyweds cut the wedding cake together and give the first pieces to their parents. Particularly enterprising couples, together with the host, organize a wedding auction and sell the first piece, often for the price of a whole cake.
STAGE 14 - Bride ransom.
Previously, great attention was paid to the bride price; it was of a serious nature and was an obligatory stage of the wedding schedule. And in our time, ransom is nothing more than a fun competition for the groom and his friends, in which they perform various comic tasks, solve simple puzzles and always successfully reach their designated goal - the bride. Sometimes it happens that the banality of this procedure forces people to turn to professional artists. For example, an interesting option for holding a wedding ransom is to conduct Russian folk rituals with the groom and his guests by a folk group of mummers. Or you can take an unconventional route and invite professional serenades under your beloved’s window, and lay out your declaration of love on the asphalt with rose petals. In general, there are a million options, the main thing is a positive outcome of this procedure.
STAGE 15 - Breaking the wedding loaf.
The loaf is another tradition that has been preserved for a long time and is an integral attribute of the beginning of the wedding banquet. The loaf is usually kept by the groom's mother on a tray with a towel; the newlyweds break it up after salting it for the last time to each other. It is believed that whoever breaks off the most pieces of loaf will be the master of the family! During the banquet, you can distribute the loaf to guests as a sign of the generosity of the future spouses, or you can keep it for yourself and dry it for a “rainy day.”
STAGE 16 - Breaking glasses.
Just like the loaf, breaking glasses is an old wedding tradition, when the groom’s mother invites the newlyweds to break the loaf, the bride’s mother holds glasses of champagne or wine in order to drink to the bottom and break the glasses for luck. It is believed that if the leg does not break, it will be a girl, but if it breaks, it will be a boy.
It is better to buy drinking glasses in advance rather than using restaurant ones, otherwise you may be billed for damages. If you are on a soft surface at the time of breaking, then move to a place where the glasses will definitely break to avoid an unpleasant incident.
STAGE 17 - Sprinkling with rice and coins.
In all countries of the world, this tradition is the most long-awaited and desired by newlyweds and guests. Sprinkling with rice was carried out as a sign of wealth and prosperity of the future family. Everything is very simple - pre-cooked rice, change or candy is distributed to the guests and when the young people leave the church they are sprinkled with it. Nowadays, it has become an increasingly popular tradition to replace rice and coins with rose petals, they are more beautiful and lighter. It is important that they are clean and fresh, otherwise the effect of sprinkling may not be very pleasant. Rose petals are usually placed in specially prepared baskets or envelopes and distributed to guests a minute before the newlyweds leave. Unlike coins, you can throw them on your head and not at your feet.
STAGE 18 - Launching pigeons.
Doves are a symbol of peace, freedom, new life. The launching of doves on a wedding day means the beginning of a new life together for two loving hearts - which is why this tradition has become very popular on the wedding day. The newlyweds can do this after leaving the church or registry office, before the wedding banquet, or simply on a wedding walk. Sometimes wedding organizers put blue and pink ribbons on the pigeons, and whichever one falls off the pigeon first during the flight, the first child will be born in this family. If launching pigeons seems like a very standard solution to you, then you can arrange the launch of several dozen huge butterflies. Launching butterflies does not depend on the time of year and is an original solution for extravagant couples.
19 FATAL STAGE - Marriage.
Marriage registration and wedding are the most important stage of the wedding day. After all, this is precisely why guests gather, young people prepare, parents worry, and organizers fuss. It is customary to usually hold a wedding at a registry office, but recently an interesting alternative solution, at the initiative of wedding agencies, has become a wedding with on-site registration. That is, on your wedding day you no longer need to languish in stuffy and small registry offices, stand in queues and confuse your limousines with others - now the registrar will come to you. An outdoor wedding can take place in any place convenient for you: for example, in a rented mansion or a picturesque estate, in a beautiful park or on the river bank, on board a ship or airplane. All your thoughts, desires and ideas can now be realized thanks to this procedure. The main thing is that the exchange of wedding rings between newlyweds remains unchanged!
STAGE 20 - Wedding banquet.
For many, a wedding is a celebration that is the most important and important in a person’s life, because it is at this moment that a person ceases to be alone - he has a family! Therefore, young people and their parents try to celebrate this important and serious step in life at the highest level. The wedding banquet is one of the important stages of the celebration and is the first in importance after the registration of marriage and wedding. A wedding banquet gives guests the opportunity to express their feelings and desires, utter warm, sincere words to the newlyweds, and give them life instructions. Well, the heroes of the occasion, in turn, try to make the guests remember the banquet, so that everything is fun, beautiful, tasty, original and elegant. The main thing is that the newlyweds themselves can feel their holiday and have a good rest with the guests at the wedding celebration in their honor. A wedding banquet can be held anywhere: in a small cozy cafe, in a chic restaurant, on a modern ship, in tents on a picturesque estate - it is important that the cuisine and service are carefully studied and checked. And of course, the key to a successful banquet is a professional toastmaster or wedding host.
And one more important wedding, or rather post-wedding event -
The wedding night. It is difficult to find any advice on the format and style of this event. It is only important to think in advance where this long-awaited event will take place, and prepare the place with appropriate decoration (candles, flowers, champagne, fruits, chocolate, rose petals, music). And it is also important to remember that it has long been customary to carry the bride into the wedding room in her arms...
The material was prepared with the participation of the Wedding AgencyWedding Consult
A wedding is an unforgettable event in the life of every person.
A wedding is such a special holiday that unites the destinies of two people.
After all, what is a wedding?
A wedding is not just about the bride's beautiful white wedding dress and the groom's impeccable black tuxedo.
A wedding does not come down to putting on festive wedding makeup, putting an original wedding hairstyle on your head, choosing wedding rings and wedding shoes, buying and throwing a wedding bouquet.
A wedding is not only a cool scenario, a bride price, interesting competitions at the wedding, rich, festive wedding cuisine and menu, trips in a luxury wedding limousine...
Unfortunately, many brides and their grooms reduce the whole meaning of a wedding only to the organization of the wedding ceremony: they are only interested in wedding fashion, wedding gifts and wedding congratulations, wedding jokes and traditions, the first wedding night and beautiful photos and videos from the wedding.
Think a hundred times!
Of course, all these little things related to organizing a wedding and celebrating it are very important. But. The meaning of a wedding is not to observe beautiful wedding traditions and rituals, but to unite the lives of a woman and a man who love each other. And this is the main purpose of a wedding. Therefore, a wedding should not and does not have to be perfect. There is no need to create panic and unhealthy, neurotic excitement around the wedding celebration.
How many rich and famous people today have registered their relationships without getting married? The same Tina Kandelaki played her wedding with the then poor guy in a very, very prosaic way - marriage registration and dumplings as a wedding dinner. All. And only later, over the years, when their love and faith in each other gave them a start, an impetus, when they had both already achieved a lot - only then did they play an ideal, magnificent, very rich wedding. But already to renew feelings. True love doesn't need an expensive wedding frenzy, it doesn't care how many guests you will have at your wedding and what the bride will wear.
Even if the wedding is not ideal, even if something does not go the way you wanted, then this is not a reason for frustration, and even more so for a quarrel with family and friends, or hysterics and scandals with the groom in public. Treat the wedding as a given: the main thing is that it happens. And how the wedding will go is the tenth matter. It is important that from the moment your relationship is registered, you will be together - officially, legally, openly and honestly before people and God.
Weddings and marriage registration are very important in the lives of both girls and boys, no matter what modern neurotics say. The wedding ceremony, as it were, privatizes the loved one and places a ban on him for all other “potential” partners. No matter how strange it may sound, a wedding is the lot of people who value and value each other more than money and property. A wedding is a clear demonstration of sharing your last piece of bread with your loved one and being a happy person at the same time.
If the whole essence of a wedding comes down to glamor and pomp, then this is not a wedding - but a farce. Which will end very quickly. I generally don’t understand people who get married for money - don’t they understand that they will live someone else’s life, selling their own for delicious food and beautiful clothes? It is sad. And the statistics on arranged marriages are inexorable - sooner or later they end either in divorce or in mutual infidelity, associated with an unhappy childhood for children born in such calculating families.
Do you need it? Depend for the rest of your life on a person you don’t even love? Sell your smile, your attention, your body, your actions and love for money? Do you think that money is the highest value in life? Then I feel sorry for you, because there is nothing more valuable than love and happiness next to your loved one. If then, after many years or even decades, you subtract empty chatter, clothes, money and expensive toys from your life, will there be anything worthwhile left in it? Or just a broken trough and life as many unused chances to be happy?
After all, as wise people say, the ideal lover is a man, next to whom you understand the meaning of the word “fidelity.” And a wedding, marriage registration is needed precisely by those people, women and men, who are lucky enough to know true love and meet an ideal partner - they already know the meaning and price of fidelity, and therefore they only want to be close to their loved one, they want to live with him and love him openly and for a very long time.
If weddings were really not needed, then people would not have weddings, would not register their love and their close relationships. But every third or even second lover and loving person who has not yet united his life with the life of his beloved by marriage is interested in wedding issues to one degree or another. And these are not just words, but dry statistics: in Yandex, 3 million people were interested in love in July 2009, and 1.5 million Internet users were interested in weddings.
And one more thing: no matter what the advocates of civil marriage and open relationships say, it is impossible to live out of suitcases all your life and wait for the wind of change. Because of your youth and stupidity, you can throw yourself down the drain for ten years, following the lead of changing public opinion regarding the advisability of civil marriages and the advisability of a traditional wedding.
But sooner or later, every person wants basic stability, confidence in the future and their loved one. It is impossible to spend your whole life looking for another, and even better and ideal partner: after all, people do not get younger or more beautiful with age, and their strength does not increase. Therefore, the decision to start a family and have a wedding with a loved one is the decision of adults who have already had their fill of free love and who have come to the conclusion that there is nothing better in the world than to be tied as tightly as possible to the body by legal formalities and the soul of a loved one.
If you have been looking for the right person for ten years and still can’t find it, then this is a serious reason to think - do you know what you are looking for? Do you know yourself and your desires? Because there are always a lot of suitable people around, but to find them, you need to know what exactly you are looking for in a person. And the list of requirements for the chosen one should be short - no more than 3 main points and relate not to appearance, but to his internal qualities. For example, a win-win option for a woman when she wants to meet a kind and smart man.
There is a great meaning hidden in a wedding: after all, a wedding and marriage registration take the love relationship between a woman and a man to a fundamentally different level - from the moment the notorious blue stamp is affixed to the lovers’ passports, they begin to bear responsibility for each other - both moral and material. And it’s great - it’s great to be needed by someone, it’s great to help someone, to overcome life’s difficulties with someone, to strive for something with someone and to achieve success together step by step...
Marriage and wedding are a pass into the world of a loving and beloved Woman and a loving and beloved Man, closed to others. Others are not allowed to enter. It has its own rules, its own charter and values.
After all, why is a family created, a marriage registered, a wedding celebrated? So that the feeling of Love can open up and truly bloom. So that one of the lovers or both do not fear for their future, trembling from a nagging and restless feeling of uncertainty. So that they can preserve and carry their bright feeling for as long as possible. So that thanks to Love and family Happiness, the earth will be replenished with at least one more human life. It is very important for a child to be born in an atmosphere of mutual love, care and family happiness.
One can only feel sorry for those who do not understand the meaning of a wedding - they have not yet met their ideal soul mate, next to whom the meaning of the word “fidelity” would dawn on them...
So, you and I agreed that if your wedding is not ideal, then you will not worry about it one bit - the main thing is that as a result of the wedding you will be close to your loved one. And observing all 1000 and 1 wedding formalities and traditions is the tenth thing.
But, of course, organizing and preparing a wedding is in itself a very fun, cool and cool activity that lifts everyone’s spirits. If, of course, you approach this issue correctly.
Do you know where the Wedding begins? The wedding begins with a Marriage Proposal! Therefore, an original and cool or traditional proposal on your knees and with a rose in your teeth, a wedding ring in your hands, a marriage proposal is the starting and almost the most exciting moment in the whole wedding mess, because only after receiving a marriage proposal from your beloved man, you can mentally try on yourself the role of a beloved wife and happily agree to this love adventure - building a joint family life.
Where to start preparing for your wedding? In the West, it is customary for special agencies and specially trained people to organize weddings. Our Slavic soul requires scope and personal control of all stages of the wedding preparation process. First of all, you need to decide on the wedding day, submit an application to the registry office, specify not only the day and method of registering the marriage (regular registration or solemn, how solemn), but also clarify the exact time of registration of the new family, pay the receipts.
Legal points
It is also worth deciding in advance whether the newlyweds will get married? A wedding is a very important stage in the relationship between two people, and therefore the religious wedding ceremony must be approached very responsibly and as consciously as possible. Getting debunked is harder than getting a divorce. Therefore, if you are not sure of your love to the grave and subconsciously allow for a variety of options for the development of events in your future family life, or if you have not yet lived together before the wedding, then it is better to postpone the wedding - postpone it for a couple of years until you morally ready FOREVER and IRON to unite their destinies.
If you still decide to get married, then before submitting documents to the registry office, it is advisable to talk with the priest, check with him whether it will be possible to get married on such and such a day, ask in detail about the wedding ceremony itself, about things, wedding rings that you need to purchase it for the wedding, agree on the appearance, pay money, agreeing on a certain day and at a certain time.
Keep in mind that wedding ceremonies are not performed during Lent, or on Wednesdays and Fridays. If you are getting married, you must first register your marriage at the registry office, and only then get married in a church. Therefore, arrange so that the time will first be official registration at the registry office, and only then - a little later (calculate travel time) - the Orthodox wedding ceremony in the church.
Wedding guests
Well, then it’s a matter of technology. You need to determine the number of guests at the wedding and the wedding budget. Decide where you will celebrate the wedding - at home or in a restaurant or cafe. If at home, then count the expenses, buy food and prepare a festive wedding table. If in a cafe, then you need to agree with the administration of the cafe about the wedding day, rent a room for a wedding banquet for one, two or three whole days, calculate the cost of wedding dishes, alcohol, musicians, and pay a deposit. Decoration of the wedding hall, purchase of fireworks, balloons - all this must be discussed, agreed upon and controlled in advance.
Before the wedding, beautiful wedding invitations should be sent out to the invited guests in advance so that they have time to save up money and buy good wedding gifts for the newlyweds :)
Plot for a wedding
Then you need to decide on an original and cool, or traditional, classic wedding scenario. Choose a wedding limousine in advance or rent another beautiful wedding car from a wedding agency or use your own fleet of vehicles or the fleet of family and friends.
Next, you need to decide on the toastmaster and festive wedding music. Hire an outside wedding photographer or appoint someone you know as a wedding photographer who agrees to this difficult fate. Someone else needs to videotape the wedding ceremony and the entire wedding.
Ideally, when a man proposes marriage to a girl, he already gives her an engagement ring. In practice, men usually do not know the size of their beloved’s fingers, and therefore engagement and wedding rings are bought together in a jewelry store. Traditional wedding rings are gold, silver or platinum.
A wedding cake
A wedding cake should not only be beautiful, but also delicious. Brides often forget about this, chasing the creation of a glamorous image of their wedding in general, and a glossy wedding cake in particular. Personally, I don’t understand inedible decorations, all sorts of small balls and flowers, in wedding cakes. Everything should be natural, edible, beautiful and tasty. You need to order your wedding cake from trusted bakers.
And the best part: choosing and purchasing a beautiful wedding dress for the bride and purchasing an elegant wedding suit for the groom. Wedding shoes for the bride and groom should be beautiful, and even better, comfortable, so that the newly-made husband and wife’s legs do not give way from fatigue - jumping for several hours at the marriage registration, at the altar, around famous monuments and to the delight of guests is not a task lungs.
The bride also chooses her own wedding hairstyle, wedding veil, and wedding bouquet. It is better to buy a wedding dress rather than rent. Renting a wedding dress is like borrowing a wedding dress for a while. It’s better to buy an inexpensive, simple, but stylish white wedding dress than to waste money on renting a lush, but someone else’s wedding dress.
In addition, the cost of buying a wedding dress is only 20-30% higher than the cost of renting a wedding dress. And there are more risks. What, will you then shed tears at your wedding if you accidentally stain your snow-white rented wedding dress with red wine? It's not worth it. Therefore, you should not save on those things that will later be inherited by your granddaughters.
Before the wedding, you should plan your vacation together after the wedding. What will your wedding night be like? Today, for greater romance, many hotels offer to spend your wedding night in some original, coolly decorated hotel room. I think that newlyweds should spend their first wedding night at home, or will they spend their whole lives hanging around other people’s dosshouses?
It’s another matter if, immediately after registering the marriage, the newlyweds, following the Western example, set off on their honeymoon. But even here it somehow seems inhumane: where is the wedding? Where are the congratulations and toasts in honor of the newlyweds? Where is the giving and receiving of gifts? Where is the first marriage, family dance? Where are the guests' wishes? And in general... What is good for an American is incomprehensible to a Russian.
It makes sense to go on a honeymoon at least on the second day after the wedding - when the parents of the bride and groom have seen enough of the happiness of their beloved children, when all the congratulations, toasts and wishes at the wedding have been voiced, and all the wedding gifts have been received and unpacked. Then you can and even need to go on vacation to a place where you have wanted to go on vacation for a very long time, but without your loved one everything somehow didn’t work out.
A wedding is perhaps the happiest day in the life of the bride and groom. Only very often, trying to correspond to certain social stereotypes and ideals imposed on us by glossy women's magazines and television, the bride and groom play their feelings and emotions to the public, rather than remain themselves. And relationships don’t like lies. Therefore, even on your own wedding day, try to truly love each other, without the desire to show off in front of the guests. Just love and be happy!
Second marriage is a common occurrence these days. A large number of girls re-start their family life with a wedding, but choosing an outfit often becomes a difficult task. A wedding dress for a second marriage has become a separate item in the range of wedding fashion salons. How to look appropriate and impressive at your celebration?
The choice of outfit for a second marriage is as great as for the first celebration. The bride has the right to choose absolutely any dress for her second wedding, without limiting her desires, tastes, or imagination. Perhaps the girl will want to make unfulfilled desires come true from the first celebration or try a completely new look. The bride at her second wedding will look great in both a pantsuit and an antique style dress.
For many girls, a wedding dress is a childhood dream. As a little girl, they imagine a wedding dress: style, color, decor. But not all dreams come true; sometimes a wedding dress “from childhood” remains an unrealized goal. In this case, a second wedding may be a chance to make a long-standing desire come true. Stylists advise choosing a wedding dress for a second marriage in a more restrained style.
As a rule, a girl enters into a second marriage at a more mature age, so a corset embroidered with crystals and a tulle skirt look beyond her age. An outfit with a flowing silhouette and lace will look much more interesting on a girl. Expensive fabric and discreet beauty are the main companions of a bride walking down the aisle again. Add to the look long earrings with rhinestones, light sandals with stable heels - a modern look is ready.
What outfit can a bride choose for her second wedding - 2020 trends, photo
Girls who remarry may have different attitudes towards signs and rituals. Some have learned from their own experience that wedding traditions and all sorts of folk wisdom have nothing to do with the strength of marriage bonds. Others, on the contrary, no, no, and even think: what if it didn’t work out the first time. The following are the options: showed the outfit on the eve of the wedding, gave the ring to a friend to try on, and so on. Such girls carefully choose a dress for the second wedding, so that everything will definitely work out in the best way from the second take. Especially for these, a small selection will accept:
- the outfit should cover the shoulders;
- the dress can be any color except white;
- veil is prohibited;
- You cannot use your first marriage ring to buy a new one or melt it down.
Actually, all other signs regarding the choice of wedding dresses and decorations remain valid. And if you try to take into account all the traditions and superstitions, you can quite complicate your life, because some of them contradict each other. Choose the dress you like, and be sure that if you look great in it, it's lucky (at least on your wedding day).
Wedding dress color for a second marriage - 2020 trends with photos
After all, a second marriage is a holiday and no less important stage in life, providing an excellent opportunity to plunge again into an extraordinary festive atmosphere. This is exactly the case when you can really enjoy the event taking place without thinking about stereotypes and signs. A photo session in “full dress” will fill the registration day with bright notes and positive emotions. The most popular are: ivory, cream, soft pink, coffee, blue, gray, sirenity, champagne. The style can be short or floor-length (for example, with a high slit and an open back). At the same time, models with lace long sleeves look very elegant, adding grace to the image.
Is it possible to wear a white dress to a second wedding - 2020 trends with photos
Common prejudices suggest that the second time the outfit should be more modest, a veil is simply inappropriate, and it is indecent to wear a white dress for such a celebration. A century ago, white color suggested the innocence and chastity of the bride, but after a second marriage, and even with children present at the wedding, it is not only inappropriate, but also looks downright ridiculous. Fortunately, such times are long gone, and white dresses are worn no less often than simple elegant pastel shades or frankly shocking ones, with a deep neckline or lace garters under a short skirt. For the second time, the bride’s outfit almost does not contain the usual veil, but it can be imitated with a veil on a hat, if you really want to. This is an excellent occasion for self-realization if the first ceremony for marriage is associated with the negative experience of a failed marriage and sad memories of an unsuccessful marriage. A white dress for a bride at a second wedding is a psychologically determined attempt to start over from scratch for the second time, or moral freedom, which allows her to ignore disapproving glances and common prejudices.
Wedding dress for a second wedding 2020 - stylish style, photo
As a rule, when entering into a remarriage, the bride is no longer in a hurry to “show all her best at once,” since she has long known that neither family happiness nor the respect of her newly-made relatives depends on the pomp and luxury of her wedding attire. But tenderness, softness and love (which, oddly enough, can also be conveyed in a wedding image!) are wonderful qualities both for the family and for the celebration. Therefore, you can choose a wedding dress in not too light pastel shades, with lace (but not too much of it), with small or long sleeves.
Avoid unnecessary nudity - it is best to show and emphasize those parts of the body that you are most proud of, but without fanaticism. It is also better to leave overt sexuality for the first wedding night, let it give way to tenderness and elegance. Instead of a large number of frills and frills, it is better to choose a dress with original details and an unusual cut. Stay away from the “linen” style when choosing a delicate wedding dress for your second marriage. No matter how attractive and fashionable thin straps and translucent dresses are, reminiscent of combinations from our mothers’ wardrobe, such a dress will not look very appropriate at a wedding. This style suits very young brides, and if you are already “a little over thirty,” then pay attention to dresses made of thicker fabric and with a clearer cut.
Bride's image for a second marriage 2020: fashion news photos
For the bride, the second wedding becomes an opportunity to realize dreams that did not come true during the first celebration, or to try a completely new look for herself. There are no strict rules and principles to follow when choosing a wedding dress for the bride for her second wedding. However, we can highlight the basic tips and recommendations that are often used when choosing a new outfit. If the first wedding dress was not what you imagined in childhood, if the possibilities have become wider, the wedding budget is significantly different in a good way, then the second outfit should be exactly from your fantasies. Let it be a chic wedding or evening dress from a famous designer or an expensive suit made to order according to your sketches. The second wedding gives a new chance, an opportunity to realize ideas that could not be realized during the first celebration.
A bride getting married for the second time is usually a mature woman who wants to emphasize her elegance and sophistication. For a modest look, a sheath dress, trouser or skirt suit, a light empire-line dress or a tight-fitting floor-length dress are suitable. To prevent the look from being boring, it can be decorated with precious jewelry and lace, rhinestones or pearls.
Each bride decides for herself what to wear, no matter what kind of marriage it is: the first, second or third, it all depends on imagination, fashion preferences and budget. For many, the question arises: is it possible to get married a second time in a white dress? The answer is definitely yes! However, do not forget that many other delicate shades are now at the peak of popularity: powdery, silver, blue, lavender, peach. Therefore, you should not force yourself into limits. Wedding salons offer a wide range of models, styles and colors. There are many ateliers specializing in sewing wedding dresses that can cater to any whim and make any dream come true.
What to wear if this is not the first time you are getting married? Today, the tradition, which fundamentally prohibits the bride from wearing a white dress for the second marriage ceremony, has sunk into oblivion. As a rule, choosing a wedding dress for a second marriage is much more difficult. The natural desire to make it better than the first time will be paramount, and the dress occupies a very important place in this matter. And the approach to its selection will also be special and careful.
The decision to remarry is a decision of mature people who are ready to take responsibility in a relationship, with a considerable baggage of past mistakes and conclusions, and are ready to build a mature relationship, the basis of which will be a deeper feeling.
Very often, brides for the ceremony of their second marriage present their outfit not too lush and, of course, not white, but cream or ivory and always with a long, chic train.
The silhouette is preferably elegant, the cut can be creative, and not like in my youth - with a lot of ruffles and lace.
A second marriage is the beginning of a new, happy life, and any woman wants its beginning to be original and memorable.
Often, brides choose the option of a short wedding dress, which will be a wonderful alternative to a long white dress if you absolutely do not want repetitions.
What can you wear to your second wedding?
When choosing an outfit style, focus on the features of your figure, not your age.
Most brides for their second wedding choose straight and tight dresses. for example, a mermaid.
This style is not suitable for girls whose waist is not clearly defined. A short or long wedding dress in the Empire style and in the Greek style is suitable here. This outfit will just hide your existing belly.
Allow yourself to choose exactly the dress model that you dreamed of, but could not afford during your first marriage. If you want to wear a luxurious, lush outfit, wear it and don’t listen to anyone.
Opt for a simple dress cut. Despite the brevity, it will be elegant. Add jewelry to a formal outfit. Please note that expensive lace, rhinestones and pearls will only emphasize the beauty.
If you are going to have a wedding on the same day, then pay attention to a dress with a train; this is acceptable if you have decided to completely abandon the veil.
Wear a white dress if desired. After all, the times are long gone when people were embarrassed to make a second marriage a grand celebration, and the second time the family appeared modestly and without fancy frills. Along with other prejudices, the ban on a white dress for the bride upon remarriage was forgotten. Perhaps because in this way the purity and purity of the bride were previously emphasized, but now it is unlikely that the choice of color should be subjected to precisely such criteria. So for a second wedding, white should not be considered a taboo color.
Sometimes the bride also refuses a white dress, citing fashion trends or age category. Then an alternative to a snow-white dress can be cream or pastel colors of the outfit, as well as ivory color. Although, in fact, the color and style of the second wedding dress is not at all important. Be yourself, follow your desires, create your own mood, create and fantasize.
As for choosing a wedding veil - wear it. Don't get hung up on all the prejudices and organize your wedding the way you want.
If you don't want to wear a long veil, replace it with a tiara or you can weave fresh flowers into your hair - this is a very romantic alternative to a veil and many brides choose just such a decoration. On this day it is extremely important that it is perfect. Therefore, use the services of a master who will not only create a masterpiece from your hair, but also fix it so that it remains in perfect condition until the end of the holiday.
Instead of a veil, you can also attach a wedding veil or hat to your hairstyle. She looks very beautiful and the wedding traditions will be respected.
Wedding outfit ideas
Only your own imagination will give you the most ideal answer to this burning question, but we can give you directions.
Short classic outfit mostly in light colors. If your plans only include getting married and celebrating a joyful event exclusively in the warm circle of relatives and friends, you can safely choose a short dress and not limit yourself in choosing colors. It is customary to choose short or medium-length dresses for the second (or all subsequent) weddings.
A chic evening dress with rhinestones, beads, semi-precious stones or other decorations.
A dress in the style of the 60s will look bold and festive.
You can try on a white pantsuit and a hat, and if the groom dresses the same, your suit will look very stylish.
Any of the costumes of popular people, if there is a wedding on a specific theme.
For the second wedding dress, you can choose a model with a colored belt or inserts in the dress itself or in the train.
Perhaps your chosen one will have this ceremony for the first time in his life, but for you this will be the second marriage. Remember that this is the first celebration in his life and, perhaps, he wants a real lavish wedding, observing rituals and traditions. In this case, choose a lace wedding dress in light colors.
The main thing is your comfort and the fact that you should feel like a heroine at this celebration.
Alternatives
Of course, an alternative solution that will amazingly replace a wedding dress is a chic suit. The bride will also look dazzling in it.
- The best option, of course, would be a suit, the cut of which would combine fabrics of different textures.
- It will not be easy to resolve the question, what will make up the lower part of the suit? Very simple. Whatever makes you comfortable. If you want to highlight your beautiful legs, then of course a chic skirt. If you want your suit to replicate the silhouette of a long dress, choose nice trousers.
- A jacket made of guipure in the same tone as the bottom of the suit will look chic; it will add a festive chic to the outfit.
- The most appropriate fabrics would be jacquard, thick silk or taffeta. Just don’t forget about finishing the suit with a play of fabrics. Here you can let your imagination go free and experiment with a selection of fabrics as you please, from flying guipure to the finest wool.
- Think over your image from A to Z. You cannot afford to look like a guest at a royal tea party, today you are the queen! Everything should be in harmony and create a solemn mood from accessories to the general surroundings. But you also can’t overload the image. Find a middle ground.
Color and fabric
We have already said that the bride can safely choose a snow-white wedding dress for her second wedding. But if you are embarrassed by the sidelong glances of strict adherents of traditions, then, of course, you should opt for a different color scheme for your outfit. Moreover, today wedding dresses are sewn in a huge range of colors and shades. In addition to light colors, you can choose bold, bright ones.
Choose the color that suits you. Golden, sky blue and peach tones suit fair girls. For brunettes, silver or white would be a great choice. Women with fiery red hair suit cream shades.
Modern wedding bears little resemblance to the rituals of the past, which secured the unification of two people into one whole - a family. But the essence remains the same - this is an event that becomes the beginning of the life of a new union, family, helps the bride and groom understand this and notifies others.
A wedding makes the couple’s relationship legitimate, that is, legalized and recognized in the eyes of society. In former times, it meant the entry of a new person - a bride into her husband's clan, but now it means the creation of a family by two people. At the same time, their parents and other relatives become relatives both to the son-in-law/daughter-in-law and to each other.
There are several theories regarding the origin of the word "wedding":
- This is a derivative of the name of the ancient Roman goddess of persuasion, the patroness of festivals and fun - Svada.
- It is formed from the verb “to reduce” in the sense of connecting, uniting into one and symbolized the formation of a family from two separate people who were previously strangers to each other.
- It is based on the word “holy,” which emphasizes the sacredness and significance of the union.
- The word comes from the word “matchmaker” and indicates the important role of a person who acts as an intermediary between the families of the bride and groom, a witness to the agreement between them.
- It consists of several words that were significant for the ancient Slavs - “Sva” (sky), “Bo” (gods) and “De” (deed) and denotes the heavenly (important, beyond the control of man) act of the gods.
What is the origin of the word "marriage"?
Having found out what is a wedding, what our ancestors put into this word and what our contemporaries put into it, let us turn to the concept of marriage. If a wedding means a certain ritual, actions that symbolize the creation of a legal union, then marriage is a life together that follows after the celebrations have died down. Although initially it also meant a wedding feast.
According to the official version, the word “marriage” was formed during the use of the Old Church Slavonic language and comes from the verb “to take” by adding the suffix -k to the root of this word. The validity of this version is evidenced by the stable expression “get married”, as well as the Ukrainian word “betrothed” - got married.
This symbolizes the wife’s entry into a new family - the husband’s family and the fact that she is taken (taken away) from her parents. Our ancestors also used the word “take” to mean “steal” or “kidnap.” And in some historical periods, this is exactly what they did to girls - they forcibly took their future husband into the house.
There is also a humorous version based on the use of the word “marriage” both in the meaning of marriage and in the meaning of a flaw or lack. Many have heard the expression “a good deed cannot be called a marriage” in this regard. According to this version, in ancient times, girls ready for marriage were called Vestas, that is, those who knew (know) all the wisdom of housekeeping and caring for children, prudent and wise. And if a marital union was concluded by a girl who was not endowed with these qualities, then she was called the BRIDE, and her relationship with her husband was called marriage.
In fact, the word “marriage” in the meaning of flaw is borrowed from the German language and comes from the word brack (flaw, defect) and that, in turn, from brechen (to break, break). So these words are homonyms - they are the same in spelling and sound, but have different meanings. There are also theories about the origin of the word “marriage” from a similar-sounding word in Arabic, which means twinning.
Origin of the word "marriage"
Having found out, one cannot help but remember about matrimony, which means married life. According to Dahl's dictionary, it is derived from the word “to conjugate”, i.e. to unite, combine. Vladimir Dal calls “harness”, “yoke” and “pair” words that are similar in origin and meaning. The word “yoke” does not sound very pleasant in relation to married life; it is familiar to modern people in the meaning of an unpleasant, heavy burden. But a joint, family life, in essence, is a long-term effort between two people to improve relationships and everyday life.
Reveals the nature of marriage and another word close to it - “marriage”. This is a pair of horses or oxen yoked together to cultivate a field. Thus, marriage was understood by the Slavs as a difficult but necessary joint work of two people. Symbolically, they go through life in the same harness, plow the field (solve joint problems, improve their lives, raise children).
