From the point of view of an optimist, to perceive everything positively, but on the other hand - in our life, when there are so many problems and all sorts of troubles - it is quite difficult to do this. Let's start with the fact that all events in the world are neutral in themselves and not colored by any emotions. It is each person who gives them a negative or positive (or leaves a neutral) connotation.
For example, a man slipped and fell, if this is in a comedy film, then it’s funny - positive perception, if you fell - it hurts, negative perception, or perhaps you passed by on the street and did not particularly pay attention to this incident - neutral perception. That is, we ourselves, our brain, evaluate events. Moreover, more often than not, the brain does this as if without our participation - emotions spill out. And if you try to control your feelings, it is not easy and it is not always possible, especially at the beginning. But if you try, you will definitely get results. Moreover, the most difficult thing is not only not to outwardly express negative emotions, but to really believe that everything is fine (or neutral).
How can we perceive the failures and troubles that we encounter at every step? Failures must be treated as a lesson on the way to achieving a goal. The one who does nothing makes no mistakes. Napoleon Hill: “Failures teach us, not put obstacles in front of us... In every negative moment lies the seeds of equally significant positive moments... Just one, but good idea, backed up by action, can turn failure into success. Your mistakes are not you."
That is, you do not hide from problems and mistakes, but learn and analyze them - try to find them positive point and focus your attention on it. Diogenes: “No one offends us except ourselves,” “we are inflicted emotional trauma not by the people around us, but by our reaction to their words and actions.”
A few words about work, which sometimes also gives us quite a few negative emotions, in the words of Elwood Chapman: “Many people believe that work and pleasure are opposite concepts... Focus on the positive factors of work... Exhausting work is too high a price that we We can pay for the right to lead a decent lifestyle.
If you have a negative attitude towards work, you lose three times: 1) work does not bring pleasure; 2) you are not growing professionally; 3) negative impact on personal life... Combine business and pleasure! Look for a job that you like. If such a profession does not already exist, create it."
In other words, you should also look for positive factors in your work, but if you really hate your job, then maybe you should look for another? And also, never pay too much attention to what people think about you, how they evaluate you. The ancient Roman philosopher Epictetus said: “People are not concerned about the events themselves, but about their opinions about these events.”
Everyone probably has days when everything is wrong and generally lousy. For this case, you can come up with a formula for yourself that would help you cope with this. Og Mandino wrote that in this case, it helps him to open the newspaper on page 6 (in the USA they publish obituaries there) and think that any of these people would happily change places with him, and all his troubles are nonsense.
It helps me when I imagine that on the scale of the Earth, or even better the Universe, all my problems and difficulties are such a trifle that there is no point in being upset about them. Try to find something that helps you. And a few more quotes from different books: “We need to look for the positive in both the past and the future - this is the formula that will help us live. Manage your thoughts, control your emotions, decide your own destiny! Focus your thoughts on what you consider pleasant and useful, and distract yourself from everything unpleasant and harmful. Tune your brain to what you want, and distract it from what you don’t want. With a positive attitude, you can always achieve success. A person’s capabilities are limited only by his desires, attitude in life... "Money cannot buy a positive attitude. ...Only you yourself can control your attitude in life."
And now we move on to exercises that will help us achieve our goal and become happy.
Exercises
“We become what we think about most,” said W. James. So let's think about what we want to become and what we want to achieve. To achieve a greater effect, you need to learn to relax physically - this is taught by auto-training and other systems. “Physical relaxation promotes mental relaxation. A relaxed body cannot feel fear, irritation, or anxiety.” Choose a time and place where no one will disturb you - relax and imagine that the goal has been achieved and how you feel, the more small parts imagine (color, smell, etc.) the better.
In Anatoly Babushkin’s book “Bathhouse - the House of Health,” a recommendation is given to do this in a sauna or Russian steam room, although he focuses on health. But we will try to combine these recommendations. So, relax in the sauna or in the Russian steam room, it’s better to lie down, and imagine that moment when you were truly happy, perhaps this is the first day of your vacation and you went to the seashore and everything is great. Or is it the day you finished successfully big project etc.
When you have imagined this (precisely that feeling of happiness - Vereshchagin calls this the “reference” state), now in this state imagine that you have achieved your goal and how good you feel. The more often you do this exercise, the better. As Colin Turner says: “Invest one percent of your time each day in yourself, and you will get the other ninety-nine percent in profit.”
And here is what William James says about relaxation (1899) - “The Commandments of Relaxation” - “When a decision has been made and it is necessary to begin execution, discard all responsibility for the outcome of the matter - that is, disinhibit your intellectual and practical mechanisms, let them act free and easy, and they will serve you doubly."
The following recommendations from books can also serve as exercises: “Relax - the Mechanism of Success is working for you... Every morning leave the house feeling as if YOU are the most happy man... Love yourself... Examine and re-evaluate your beliefs. Believe in yourself....Learn to listen to yourself - think in silence and solitude - relaxation... Make success a habit!... Be yourself and do what you really love... Once you realize that you can achieve success, you will achieve it... You need to cultivate the “habit of success”. Success promotes success. Recreate the “feeling of success” from memory (some episode)... Always act - little by little, but every day...”
Here's another very useful recommendation: “If nothing is lost in trying, and much can be gained if you succeed, be sure to try!” Over time, we become more and more lazy and sometimes we are too lazy to force ourselves to call someone or go somewhere, but according to the above quote, we must definitely try, if you fail, you lose some time, and if you succeed...
Now “exercises” in relation to other people: “The more you share, the more you will have... To become happy, make other people happy!... Start smiling at yourself, start smiling at the whole world! Strive to find the good in others and learn to love people... Joy should always be shared!... Forgive yourself and others, do not judge people. Try to understand other people. Give compliments. Other people see the world differently than you. Develop a state of joy and happiness in yourself: a) feel happy. b) share your happiness with others."
And remember that “success and fame come to those who develop a passionate desire to achieve a goal,” and “a weak desire gives weak results.”
Well, and some basic truths that we often forget: “Know how to repent and admit when you’re wrong... Make adjustments to your actions... Self-confidence is the first secret of success... Perseverance is important factor transforming desire into a material equivalent.
Still, I believe that: "There seems to be a direct relationship between people's expectations and what actually happens."
I don’t know if I managed to convey to you the mood that arises after reading books. But to consolidate this mood, again with the help of quotes, I will repeat the main ideas. So, the main thing is that “Imagination is the workshop of your mind, which has the power to transform its energy into well-being and success.”
And for this to happen it is necessary to comply the following principles(Napoleon Hill):
1. Positive outlook
2. Definition of purpose
3. Willingness to go the extra mile
4. Be a pleasant person to talk to
5. Enthusiasm
6. Learn from failure
7. Apply creative vision.
Maxuel Moltz says that the conditions for success are:
1. Specific goal
2. Know how to face the truth, don’t deceive yourself. Admit your mistakes and failures, but don't dwell on them.
3. Be brave when solving your problems, know how to take risks.
4. Kindness to people and high self-esteem
5 - I am I, the rest does not matter (I am already a person)."
Colin Turner repeats: “Build your self-confidence:
A) the main goal is to be happy
B) imagination - what I will be like
B) remember positive experiences
D) rise above negative feelings
D) believe in yourself actively, not passively."
And at the same time we must remember: “Living one day at a time, but seeing the goal ahead is the formula for success. Either forward or backward - there is no middle ground. You can do it if you believe that you can! Victory is given in inches, not miles.”
I wish you happiness and success!
Hello dear readers. Today I want to congratulate you on the New Year and wish you all the most wonderful things in the coming year. And give you a positive mood. 10 tips on how to learn to think positively. So, let's begin. You don’t need to be a psychologist or an expert in the field of transurfing or esotericism to be able to clearly trace the pattern between how a person thinks, what he thinks, what he talks about, and his current state (physiological, psycho-emotional, material, financial, etc. ). That is, it turns out, if we systematize everything, that our thoughts predetermine it (this state) and have a direct impact (both mediocre and immediate) on our lives. To put it very simply: we have what our thoughts have led us to (negative thoughts lead us to negative thoughts, and, accordingly, positive thoughts lead us to positive thoughts).
This is why it is so important to always think positively. How to learn this? After all, not every person is a frank and convinced optimist from birth.
And those who were such, taking into account the realities of our lives, quickly change their life views to radically opposite ones. We really hope that this article will help you with this. So, are you ready for positive thinking and the same changes in your life? Then let's go!
Why is it important to learn to think and live positively?
Answer this question for yourself. And this will be the first, but one of the most important, incentives to do just that. What is important to you? After all, everyone has their own priorities and goals in life. Some people want good (regardless of what they consider it to be) for themselves, others - for their loved ones, others, and so on. But without positive thinking this is unlikely to be achieved.
Have you noticed that successful people rarely pay attention to various little things and annoying troubles?
They are focused on their goal and never complain about the circumstances that have developed. And 90% of them always look at the world around them with optimism. Those who are accustomed to dwelling on annoying troubles, sorting everything out bit by bit (what happened, why exactly, what influenced it, and so on) rarely achieve success in business. This is typical, first of all, of perfectionists. They can perfectly perform single tasks, concentrating all their attention and energy on them, but are not capable of systematically managing their lives.
That is, these are excellent performers, but not leaders (including their own destiny and life), which consist of a mass of such little things, and you need to pay attention to each of them, but it is important to be able to choose what really makes sense and “ weight"!
Conclusion! Why is it important to learn to think and live positively? Without this, it is impossible to achieve major goals. In order not to lose your positive attitude, not to waste it on dozens of annoying little things, just don’t get hung up on them. A very bright and good, appropriate expression here: “The dogs bark - the caravan moves on!”
And one more thing: our thoughts are the beginning of actions, each of them, without exception. And without positive thinking, a positive, high-quality (in every sense) life simply will not work. But you need to achieve a radically opposite result! In this case, the following practical tips will come in handy.
10 Important Tips on How to Always Think Positively
On the blog, we have already discussed the topic: . The article notes important tips, perhaps they will also help you get in the right mood. But it is important not only to learn to think positively, but also to live positively.
1 Don't wait for positivity from the outside, create it yourself. Don’t rely on random luck, but make sure it finds you—that’s the main message. Do you want to see the world better? Start with yourself. It won't be easy, but you will be able to fully enjoy the result. Ask yourself, “What did I do today to improve my life?” When answering this question, monitor your emotions. They'll tell you. You will feel positive - you are on the right path. Negativity is a signal that you need to look for options, work, build your own destiny, and not rely on strangers.
2 Break up with the excess. Many are “pulled to the bottom” by the weight of the past. Get rid of it. Let go of bad memories, stop being angry and holding grudges against those who once hurt you or did something bad. You are probably thinking about these people right now. Remember: what was then has forever lost its relevance. Don't let it affect your life now. Negative emotions take up a lot of energy and steal your time. And you need all this to achieve your goals. Don't live in the past, but let the good moments from it warm you up and give you strength for even greater achievements.
3 Believe in yourself. Despite everything! Remember: you are who you think you are, and not who others think you are. Even if they tell you that what you have in mind is impossible, don’t give up! After all, this is impossible in their opinion, not in yours. So let this remain their problem. And thus, you will only have an advantage: while others are afraid to do it and do not believe in their success, you have already begun to move towards it!
4 Give yourself extremely positive attitudes. It’s like a program that you can write into your subconscious and use at the same level at the right time. So, waking up in the morning after a strong healthy sleep, you need not to be lazy to remind yourself that “I am smart and beautiful, I am full of strength and energy to achieve my plans, I have all the knowledge and skills necessary for this, and those that I do not have at the moment, I can find , when I really need them, all circumstances contribute to my success, and I myself tried to make it so.” Don't limit your imagination! Systematic “programming” every day is a powerful argument in your hands in “dealing with circumstances.”
5 Thank the world, and yourself personally, for what you have. Positive emotions, attitudes in the morning and obligatory gratitude in the evening, this is very important. Without learning to appreciate, you will not be able to realize the true importance of what and who surrounds you, which means you will always have less and less. You cannot find happiness in this cycle. Those who know how to enjoy little things always achieve more. After all, the state of happiness is very abstract. Look at life as a treasure chest that is full of wonders.
6 Focus on your capabilities and strengths. Instead, many, many people focus precisely on their limitations. And this is fundamentally wrong. “I don’t have start-up capital to start my own business. I don't have time to learn new skills. I don’t have the opportunity to... I don’t have...". Stop! Look at what you already have and you will be surprised how much you have. This will allow you to achieve success.
7 Surround yourself with positive information. She is the source of wealth. Do you see only negativity around? This means you are simply looking in the wrong place. There is a lot of both in the world. But what to receive is entirely your conscious choice. Don't believe me? It's easy to check. Unsubscribe from groups in in social networks, in discussions of whose publications you always participate so vigorously and emotionally. This is the first step, one of a hundred. But you will see how much time you have freed up and how many nerves you have managed to save by stopping unnecessary arguments with strangers.
8 Don't let fears influence your life. Do you want to start something new, something you’ve been dreaming about for a long time? Do you think you won't succeed? And you are absolutely right! But not because you are incapable of this, or circumstances may turn out somehow wrong, but only because you predetermined the result in advance, even before you started! Maybe you, on the contrary, are confident that everything will work out for you, and everything will be fine at its best? And here you are absolutely right too! Do you get the point? Whether you think that you can do it, or, on the contrary, you won’t succeed, you are right in both cases. And only you can decide what will happen in reality.
9 Smile more often and be around more positive, successful people. Staying in a great mood is the key to success. And communication, in itself, is a great anti-stress move, and if it happens with those people who can teach you something necessary, or simply tune you into the right “wave,” then it’s absolutely great.
10 Don't forget about responsibility. For yourself and your life, for those people who are dear to you, for what is happening next to you. But let it be a powerful constant incentive for you, and not a heavy burden. This is the fundamental difference!
Also, maintain your health at the proper level (do exercises, play sports), eat right, strive for new knowledge, work on yourself. These are all fundamental principles that successful people adhere to.
Success is not necessarily fame, popularity, recognition, a dizzying rise in career and business. For everyone there is one. And his final goal- happiness. Are you happy with what you have? Then you can consider that you have achieved success. But no one said that we should stop there. It all depends on your desire. By the way, doing exactly what you want is also one of the components of happiness. But only if “it” benefits you.
From negative to positive
Negativity is all around us. This is not surprising, because most likely you were not taught to see reverse side life. Or you yourself didn’t want it. In any case, everything that happens to you is the result solely of your activity (or vice versa - inactivity).
Negativity begets negativity. It's a vicious circle. And it's not easy to break out of it. But, if you are already reading this, then you have undoubtedly taken the first step, small but very important. Whether you accept this information or move on, it is your choice. And the result, as in 100% of all other cases, will depend only on your decision.
How to change negative thoughts? Yes, you simply cannot leave room for them, taking all your attention with the positive. And 10 will help you with this practical advice given above. Analyze what irritates you most. And then track which channels these signals come from.
If it is bad political or economic news, stop watching these channels, replacing them, for example, with scientific, educational or entertainment ones. If these are conversations with a neighbor who is constantly dissatisfied with life, limit your communication with him to greetings and wishes Have a good day with a smile. If it is a constantly creaking door, it is not very difficult to lubricate it.
Unsatisfactory financial situation - it's time to look alternative sources income. And so on and so forth. Everything, as has already been said many times, is only in your hands! Starting to change now is very important. After all, putting everything off until “tomorrow”, you don’t notice how the years pass.
The benefits of positivity and positive thoughts or how to attract success?
Paying attention to those who were able to achieve something, people wonder how they did it. After all, according to by and large, the initial conditions were almost equal. There are a lot of factors. But one of the most significant is the way of thinking. While some were afraid, doubted, lazy and did everything to move themselves further away from their dreams, others, thanks, among other things, to their positive thinking, sharply pulled ahead and continue to grow and develop.
How to attract success? It’s very simple: think positively and act! Everything is possible! But only thanks the right attitude and positive thinking. This is its main benefit.
Incredibly, it (positive thinking) is available to everyone. That is, right now you can start thinking exactly like those who have money, good health, a good relationship. What are you waiting for? Its time to begin! I hope this information will help you always think and live positively, as well as attract success)))
Scientists say that so-called positive thinking not only helps cope with stress, but can even improve your health. The practice of overcoming negative conversations with yourself will be discussed in our article.
Is your glass half empty or half full? How you answer this age-old question about positive thinking reflects your outlook on life and how you feel about yourself. Doctors are confident that whether you are an optimist or a pessimist can affect your health.
Indeed, some research suggests that personality traits such as optimism and pessimism can affect a person's health and well-being. Positive thinking, which usually goes hand in hand with optimism, is a key element of effective stress management. A effective management stress is associated with many health benefits. However, if you are naturally pessimistic, don't despair - you can learn the principles of positive thinking and learn how to apply them in your life. Here's how it's done.
Understanding positive thinking and self-talk
Positive thinking doesn't mean you have to bury your head in the sand and ignore difficult things. life situations. Positive thinking simply means that you approach problems and deal with them in a more positive and productive way.
Positive thinking often starts with talking to yourself. This conversation is like an endless stream of unspoken thoughts that go through our heads every day. These automatic thoughts can be positive or negative. Some of our self-talk comes from logic and reason, others may arise from delusions that you create.
If the thoughts that run through your head are mostly negative, your outlook on life is likely to be pessimistic. If your thoughts are mostly positive, you are probably an optimist - someone who practices positive thinking.
Health Benefits of Positive Thinking
Scientists continue to explore the effects of positive thinking and optimism on health. Health benefits that positive thinking can provide include:
- Increased life expectancy.
- Decreased levels of depression.
- Less frustration.
- Greater resistance to colds.
- Greater psychological and physical well-being.
- Reducing the risk of death from cardiovascular disease.
- Skills for coping with difficulties and stress.
The mechanism of why people who have positive thinking experiences are healthier is not yet fully understood. According to one theory, a positive vision of the future allows you to better cope with stressful situations, which reduces harmful effects stress on health. It is also believed that positive and optimistic people tend to lead healthy image life - being more physically active, eating a healthy diet, not smoking or drinking too much alcohol.
Identifying Negative Thinking
Not sure whether your self-talk is positive or negative in nature?
Here are some common forms of negative self-talk:
- Filtration. You exaggerate the negative aspects of a situation and filter out all the positive ones. For example, you had a hard day at work. You successfully completed everything you planned and were praised for your quick and thorough work. But you forgot to do something small. And so all evening you reproach yourself for your mistake, as if fixated on it and forgetting about other successes.
- Personalization. When something bad happens, you automatically blame yourself. For example, your friends called you and told you that the evening was cancelled. After this, various stupid thoughts come into your head. For example, you assume that the change in plans occurred because no one wanted to be near you.
- Expecting the worst. You automatically expect the worst. When you are told something not very pleasant in the morning, you immediately automatically think that the rest of the day will certainly not bring anything good.
- Polarization. You see things only as good or bad, black or white - “there is no third option.” You feel like you have to be perfect or that you're a complete insignificance.
Here are some ways to think and behave more positively and optimistically:
Identify areas to change. First, identify the areas of your life that you tend to think negatively about, whether it's work or personal relationships. You can start small by focusing on making at least one thing positive.
Periodically throughout the day, stop and evaluate what you are thinking. If you find that your thoughts are mostly negative, try to find a way to channel them in a different direction.
Be open to humor. Give yourself permission to smile or laugh, especially in hard times. If you can laugh at life, you will feel less stressed.
Lead a healthy lifestyle. Exercising at least three times a week has a positive effect on mood and relieves negative emotions. Also follow a healthy diet to nourish your mind and body.
Surround yourself positive people. Make sure you have positive, supportive people around you whom you can rely on and with whom you can share your joys and sorrows. Negative people can increase your stress levels and make you doubt your ability to cope.
Practice positive self-talk following one simple rule: Don't say anything to yourself that you wouldn't say to someone else. Be lenient with yourself, encourage yourself, notice your successes and praise yourself for them.
Remember- when you share positive mood and positive vibes with other people, it looks very attractive and attracts friends.
How to develop positive thinking in yourself
With the help of positive thinking alone you will not succeed in anything, but with it everything turns out faster and easier.
Many people in modern world realize the great importance of positive thinking, since only a person’s presence of positive thinking can give him the strength to withstand such difficult life conditions. Practice shows that positive people achieve success much more often than people with negative thinking. You probably want to join successful people, developing the habit of looking at the world from a positive point of view. But you don't know how to develop positive thinking in yourself? Then the information below is of particular importance to you.
Many bestselling authors continually use obvious advice like: “Think positive thoughts and your life will transform,” “Surround yourself with positive people and they will infect you with optimism,” “Don’t do anything—you’re already an optimist,” and so on. These tips look so obvious that it is extremely difficult for the authors to object. This situation is reminiscent of helping a child who does not know how to wash clothes at the beginning of this difficult task, with the advice: “Turn on the washing machine.” But it's obvious! You won't be able to wash your clothes without turning on the washing machine! The difficulty is to explain to the child how to use this washing machine. The same rule applies to the process of developing positive thinking.
In order to achieve results, it is not enough to simply look at the world through pink glasses, since this would be self-deception. You will ask why? Yes, because your self-hypnosis that life is wonderful will not correspond to your internal state souls. Inside yourself, you will also be convinced that fate is playing a cruel joke on you, sending all life’s litigations to you. Therefore, before you convince yourself that everything around you is wonderful and amazing, you should first believe it.
In fact, developing positive thinking is a long process that takes a lot of effort from a person. Have you changed your mind about thinking positively? “Oh, no, I don’t have time for this!” - you say. Don't have time for your own life? Do you really want to spend your whole life looking for the reasons for your failures instead of changing the course of events? If the answer to the last question is “no,” then let’s look at the basic tips that you need to use to develop the psychology of a successful person.
Example:
The thought “I failed again, everything is as always...” immediately add: “But I gained invaluable experience that will allow me to avoid making similar mistakes in the future.”
The thought “I failed the job because I don’t understand anything about it...” should be compensated by the thought: “But I tried very hard - I spent my time and effort to do the job correctly, and only for this can I be praised.”
2. Analyze your past. Your past is probably rich in both bright and memorable events, as well as sad and sorrowful ones. Many people, without knowing it, constantly return to the past, drawing memories from there that influence their behavior in the present. This happens even if the person himself pretends that he has left his past in the past. The main difference between a person with positive thinking and a negatively thinking person is that the first takes positive memories from his past, which charge him with new strength and optimism, and the second takes negative memories of his failures, instilling fear in a person that they will again will repeat. What kind of positive thinking can we talk about if a person’s past is associated with negativity? Therefore, when you are visited by negative thoughts and the desire to complain about bad luck, remember the moments of your past, both your successes and failures. Praise yourself for your successes, because they are entirely your fault. In your failures, try to find them the real reason, just don’t blame yourself - self-humiliation is alien to a positive perception of the world. View your failures in a positive light - perhaps they gave you additional knowledge and skills. There are often cases when one significant failure for a person leads to even greater success. Perhaps this is exactly your case.
3. Write down your goal. It will be interesting to know that most negative people do not have goals in life, or they are only in their heads, which in principle is tantamount to their absence. How does this affect your thinking? Yes, in the most direct way - when you don’t have a goal, you live your life chaotically, you go by touch. We are all born for certain purposes. Having achieved a goal, a person experiences the greatest joy and positivity, and subsequently, just the memory of success can give strength and make it easier to achieve other goals. When goals are achieved, a person has a clear incentive to praise himself, which directly affects his positive thinking.
If a person does not have a goal, he does not strive for anything, does not acquire new knowledge and skills, and does not improve himself. And so, at the first meeting with life’s circumstances, a person fails, and begins: “Well, this world is unfair to me,” “It’s not me, but other people who are to blame,” etc. Returning to point 1, a person is overcome by negative thoughts that produce negative thinking.
If you do not want to develop the mindset of a loser, you should work on your goals - highlight the main priorities in life, based on analysis own potential and other conditions, formulate specific, real, achievable goals, and then (this is important!) display these goals on paper. And don’t forget that to achieve success, you yourself must believe in the achievability of the goal.
4. Break your negative stereotypes. You probably know people who can complain about life for hours and constantly show their dissatisfaction with what is happening. At the same time, no matter what they talk about, an attempt is constantly made to give the story a negative connotation. But the most surprising thing is not that they are able to notice the negative even in the most positive, but that they consider such behavior normal... Have you decided to let positive thinking into your life? Then you should make a lot of efforts to eradicate such stereotypes. Remember, pessimists always believe that in any business they start they are doomed to failure. This is the most terrible stereotype of thinking, since thinking in this way a person drives himself into narrow boundaries, beyond which he does not dare. Optimists are always open to everything new and are not afraid to accept the challenge of fate, even when at first glance the chances of success are scanty. While pessimists fear, optimists do.
The best way to combat stereotypes is to change your behavior and way of thinking. “I don’t know how to manage my money, so I’ll never have a lot of it” - with a similar phrase you are programming yourself for poverty. Change this thought to “I am very practical and regularly monitor my budget.” If you don't control your spending, it's time to start right with this phrase. Be sure to back up your words with actions. Without action, words become not conviction, but self-deception.
5. Use visualization. Visualization is a very popular tool used to better visualize one's goals and increase the likelihood of achieving them. The essence of visualization comes down to creating a clear, concrete image of what is desired in a person’s mind, to help the person imagine that his goal has already been achieved. Many people, without even realizing it, use visualization to Everyday life. However, this visualization is often negative, destructive, associated with a person’s fears.
Examples of negative visualization can be encountered anywhere. So, for example, if there is heavy ice outside and you have an important urgent meeting, leaving the house, you will be afraid that you might slip and fall. Your mind paints a clear picture called “How I Fell.” And don’t be surprised if the first event after going outside is that you fall. However, despite the unconscious use of negative visualization, positive visualization will help you in the process of developing positive thinking. A person spends his energy throughout his life, only some spend it on destruction, while others spend it on creation. Visualization is an effective tool for focusing a person’s mental energy on achieving the desired result.
Most often, positive thinking is possessed by people whose all areas of life are in harmony with each other. With the power of our thoughts, we attract happiness and success, as well as the people necessary to achieve harmony. In order to be most likely to achieve success, sit in a comfortable place, close your eyes and imagine a clear image of achieving success. The pictures in your head should be clear. So, if your goal is career, imagine how your friend shakes your hand, congratulates you on taking on a new position, and how a party is thrown in connection with your promotion. “So what, I’ll start visualizing career growth for myself and instantly achieve it?” - you ask. Of course not, if you sit with your hands folded. The use of visualization techniques does not relieve a person of the responsibility to perform the actions necessary for success. However, it is visualization that will help you do necessary actions, since you will imagine the goal achieved, and all your further actions will be subordinated to this goal.
Today, the expression positive thinking does not just mean a light attitude towards life, but a whole concept and system. There are other definitions: mental positivism, correct thinking, thinking of power, new thinking. This concept includes special techniques and methods of positive thinking. They are taught in popular trainings on ways to achieve success. Generally speaking, the system is built on the belief that our thoughts can materialize. What we think about will definitely happen. If you are positive, think about success, health, happiness, then these categories will definitely come into your life. The psychology of positive thinking originated a long time ago, and its heyday occurred in the 20th century (in the USA and Europe) and the 21st century (in Russia).
History of mental positivism
It is generally accepted that the foundations of the theory of positive thinking were laid by the American writer Norman Peale. He outlined his views in his work “The Power of Positive Thinking.” It is important that he developed his theory by collaborating with experienced psychoanalysts. The Peale Method is based on the idea that a person must construct and visualize desires and dreams in order to achieve more High Quality life and greater life satisfaction.
The author tried to use his work to help a person create a positive way of thinking. The Power of Positive Thinking has sold over 5 million copies. Although the work has been subject to considerable criticism. The author was accused of hypnosis and a large number of unconfirmed quotes.
The Birth of Mental Positivism
Despite the fact that Norman Peale, who lived in the 20th century, is considered the founding father of positive thinking techniques, people first started talking about these techniques back in the 19th century. American philosopher and writer Ralph Emerson in his works spoke about the need to trust your inner strength and listen to yourself. The main works that expound these ideas are “On Nature” and “Self-Trust.” Emerson had many followers in the USA: Quimby, R. W. Train, P. Melford. In Europe, 3 directions of force thinking were most famous: the French Coue method, German mesmerism and the institute of “mental positivism” of Schellbach.
Psychologist and pharmacist Emile Coue has developed a method based on daily actions that should bring what you want, for example the phrase - I look better every day. This method is based on self-hypnosis, on changing unconscious thoughts, as Coue himself said. The advantage of theory is that it is based on practical observations. While working as a pharmacist, the scientist observed how self-hypnosis affects a person’s recovery. What Coue noticed would later be called the placebo effect.
The physician Friedrich Mesmer founded a technique named after him mesmerism, or animal magnetism. It is based on irrational ideas. According to Mesmer, people are free to release special energy and use it to communicate with each other. He conducted group sessions in which he treated people by placing them in a state of trance.
All of these scientists laid the foundations of positive thinking. Today, many of these principles are used by modern specialists in their work.
Positive psychology
The science of correct thinking largely relies on such a section as positive psychology. It is generally accepted that the thinking of force is its applied continuation. There are also opponents to this opinion, who argue that positive psychology appeared much later.
This branch of psychology studies only positive sides of the human psyche, in contrast to the classical one, focused on pathologies, problems. The main themes of the positive direction: optimism, forgiveness, trust, flow, solidarity, i.e. those categories that bring joy, peace, and satisfaction into our lives. The purpose of this section is to try to reveal a person’s potential, make his life brighter and...
Founder Martin Seligman identified the main areas of research: positive emotions (enjoyment, optimism, energy, vitality), positive features character (love, wisdom, kindness, courage, honesty), social institutions, promoting the development of people (strong family, democracy, free media, comfortable working environment).
Researchers working in this area have proven the influence positive emotions on a person’s worldview. Research results have shown that positive thinking makes a person more open, productive, and courageous. He is able to think more effectively and find optimal ways problem solution.
Experts in Mental Positivism
The formation of positive thinking has received the greatest development in our century. Today millions of books on and are published. The leader in this area is the USA. First of all, the practice of positive thinking is used in the work of development consultants, business coaches, and speakers. During their talks, they teach people how to be a positive person, have a positive mindset and change their lives. Here are the most popular experts on positive thinking techniques today.
- Stephen Covey. American consultant and teacher. The main area of activity is consulting on organizational management and life management. He is best known for his bestselling books: “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”, “The Eighth Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness”, “4 Rules for Successful Leaders”, “Super Work. Super career."
- Robin Sharma. One of the most famous American business coaches. Writes books, gives lectures and seminars. The basis of his philosophy is the unification of two traditions: Western and Eastern. The West is characterized by determination and efficiency. For the East - wisdom, spiritual peace, the desire for the harmonious development of body and soul.
- Anthony Robbins. Motivational speaker, writer, trainer. The main topics are life coaching and self-development. Known for his audio motivational programs. He published several books that became bestsellers: “Awaken the Giant Within”, “The Book of Power over Yourself”, “Money. Game Master. Seven steps to financial freedom." To become a student of Anthony Robbins, you must enroll 2 years in advance. His services cost $1 million a year.
- Jim Rohn. The peak of Jim Rohn's career occurred in the second half of the 20th century, and in total his speaking experience was about 40 years. Over such a long period, he gave lectures around the world, was engaged in consulting and published a large number of books. The most famous works: “Treasury of Wisdom. Success, career, family”, “Seven strategies for achieving wealth and happiness”, “Vitamins for the mind”.
- Robert Kiyosaki. This famous trainer is already 70 years old, and he still gives motivational lectures, during which he tells how to start thinking positively and how to set yourself up for success. Robert Kiyosaki's book "Rich Dad Poor Dad" brought him worldwide fame. Other bestsellers include Rich Dad's Guide to Investing and The Cashflow Quadrant.
- Lee Iacocca. Lido Anthony Iacocca worked as a top manager at Ford and Chrysler, but became known throughout the world thanks to his autobiographical books. The most popular of them in Russia is “Manager’s Career”. In them, he shares the secrets of his success, including the importance of such actions as positive thinking every day.
Napoleon Hill
When talking about the science of mental positivism, one cannot help but talk about Napoleon Hill. He stood at the origins of modern life coaching, career and personal growth. He is often referred to as a great success writer and is called the founding father of new thought and the self-help genre. His book Think and Grow Rich is one of the best-selling books in the world. Hill's philosophy is in the phrase: "A man can achieve what his mind can imagine."
In his books, he offered specific exercises on how to set yourself up for success. This technique is based on a huge practical work: Hill interviewed the most successful and famous figures of his time. Subsequently, he analyzed these success stories and derived his formula.
Principles of Positive Thinking
What are the basic principles of positive thinking? They include certain attitudes, exercises and techniques that help to form positive personal qualities and a positive way of thinking. In order to eliminate negative thinking and begin to think positively, you must practice these principles every day and sincerely believe in their effectiveness. Here are the main ones.
- Our thoughts materialize. The world treats us the way we treat him. Be kind, caring, help others and you will see that the world will reciprocate you.
- . She always accompanies us. Love is at the core of learning to think positively and attract good things. Accompany all your actions with care, respect, and do not show indifference. A positive person treats everyone with love and kindness.
- The world around us is not limited, the resources in it are limitless. It sounds unusual, but try repeating this phrase to yourself every day. And you will see: if you really want something, you will definitely get it.
- Each of us is the author of our own destiny. There are many studies confirming that self-confidence is one of the keys to success. Don't look for the reasons for your failures in other people. Believe that everything in your life depends only on you.
- Love yourself. Tell yourself every day that you are smart, beautiful, happy. Praise yourself even for small victories.
- The world around us is fair: if something happened to you, then you deserve it. So do good deeds, and the world will reciprocate you. This principle is similar to the method of causal positive thinking, widely used in psychology.
- Our world is unique and worthy of admiration. Don't take for granted everything you have. Every day, thank fate for any pleasant little things. A positive person always concentrates on the good and finds pleasure in everyday little things.
Exercises
Let's look at exercises aimed at developing positive thinking. Unlike principles, they are specific actions that need to be done every day. It is believed that they need to be done daily for 3 weeks. After this time, exercise will become a habit.
"My perfect day"
This is a popular exercise that psychologists use in their practice. Most often used by personal and career development consultants. The exercise helps you set and implement goals, focus on positive attitudes, and ultimately teaches you how to be positive. The technique is as follows: describe your ideal day on a piece of paper. Pay attention to details, highlight the most important and enjoyable things for you personally: time with loved ones, playing sports, going for a walk fresh air, interesting projects, effective meeting with colleagues, etc. After this, try to spend the next day as you described it. Think about how happy and satisfied you were. If something doesn't work out, try again.
Power Thinking Techniques
Positive psychology has developed certain techniques that have proven to be effective. By applying them in your life, you will learn to better understand yourself and your desires, and realize your dreams. The most popular techniques are: visualization, meditation, affirmations, and the method of causally positive thinking. When using them, remember that they also work with negative thinking. Therefore, eliminate all sad thoughts, think only about the good.
Visualization
Visualization is about imagining what you want. The technique is based on self-hypnosis. Some scientists believe that our brain does not distinguish between real and fictitious images. Therefore it reads what we imagine as a real object. In this way, what you want comes true. Our sensations in a dream are cited as proof of this theory. They are the same as in reality. If we are scared in a dream, we feel fear as if in reality. Of course, visualization can only be seen as an addition to achieving goals. For example, if you want to lose weight, imagine in detail what your body will be like and what clothes you can wear. But visualization won't work if you don't exercise and eat right.
In addition to presenting your wishes, use special boards. Glue everything related to your dreams on them. The board can be replaced with an album, notepad, etc. It is important to imagine everything in detail: for example, how you step on the scale and see the long-awaited weight that you have been striving for for a long time. It is important to maintain spiritual harmony, calm and peace.
Meditation
Meditation is similar to the previous method in that it also actively uses the imagination. But meditation is more aimed at working with energy, rather than with consciousness. During this process you relax, tune in to the right psychological condition. Exist different kinds meditations on positive thinking: success, love, wealth. But at the first stage it is important to learn to relax and listen to yourself. Having successfully mastered this technique, you can both change your thinking to a positive one and achieve your goals. People who meditate talk about the indescribable sensations experienced during this practice.
The main principle of meditation is regularity. Most optimal time day is considered early morning or twilight. You need to position yourself so that your face faces north or east. For successful meditation, just half an hour a day is enough.
Affirmations
Affirmations are the basis for learning to think positively. They are phrases that a person repeats to himself every day for a long time. The effect of using this technique is based on self-hypnosis and the belief that thoughts can materialize. Despite its apparent simplicity and even primitiveness, mastering this method is quite difficult. It is necessary to adjust your consciousness so that you sincerely believe in the materialization of your thoughts.
Affirmations help both form positive thinking and make dreams come true. At the first stage, use expressions aimed at harmonizing your inner world and acquiring mental balance. After successfully mastering such affirmations, try other types: for love, success, etc.
Causal Positive Thinking Method
This method aims to find the root cause of an event. By finding it, in the future we can solve all other problems caused by this reason. The method of causally positive thinking makes a person more confident, as it offers control over one’s life and being its creator. We usually experience stress because one event can have several consequences. This method suggests moving from the cause. As a result, a person learns how to think positively.
Books on positive thinking
Just a few decades ago in our country they started talking about what positive thinking is as a concept of life. Therefore, on book shelves you can mainly find works by American specialists. Here are the most popular books on how to start thinking positively, achieve success and.
There is also harm to positive thinking. This happens when a person breaks away from reality and is immersed exclusively in his positive thoughts. Therefore, the techniques of correct thinking can only be considered as additional tool to real affairs.
