Do you want to change your life? Useful tips from psychologists and a motivating video will help you start taking action today!
Have you ever had the feeling that you are not living your life?
That at a certain stage you took a wrong turn somewhere and simply got lost?
That your way of existence cannot even be called a full-fledged life, is it rather a rehearsal for something important?
If yes, then this article will definitely be useful to you!
Signals hinting that it's time to change your life
Cowardice is a character trait that is common to most people!
Just don’t need to tell stories now about how you single-handedly defeated a dozen hooligans, have countless parachute jumps, have the skin of a bear you killed yourself in your living room, and in general, overcoming fear literally screams that you are an incredibly brave person.
Remember better how many times you were afraid to accept important decision and how many times have you thought about the question: “ How to change your life and where to start?»
They thought, but didn’t take any steps?
So where is the vaunted courage?
Fate constantly sends us signals that literally scream that we are not taking advantage of the given chances.
Smart people pay attention to these beacons, but weak-willed cowards prefer to pretend that nothing is happening.
As a result, life passes and, finding themselves on the threshold of old age, they realize with horror that they did everything wrong.
Signals that indicate it's time completely change your life, may look like this:
- You literally force yourself to get out of bed in the morning because you don’t expect anything good from the new day.
- You hate your job, but you continue to sit in one place for several years.
- You can hardly tolerate the person who is next to you, you have stopped feeling both emotional and physical attraction to him and you feel much more comfortable alone.
You stopped feeling happy.
Even those people and things that used to make you happy now cause you nothing but apathy.
You are malicious, who succeed at least something.
Moreover, it doesn’t have to be a million-dollar lottery win; the boss’s praise of one of the employees or a new dress on a friend is quite enough to make you feel bad.
If you can try on any of the above for yourself, then you shouldn’t delay too much in turning your life in the other direction.
You can completely change your life!
I have a friend who, being a forty-year-old mother of two children, was not afraid to radically change her life.
I hope her story inspires you!
Once upon a time there lived a girl, Olya, beautiful, quite smart, graduated from a pedagogical university, and even worked as a teacher for a couple of years.
And then she met HIM and got married.
The husband insisted that she quit her job, since he was engaged in a medium-sized business and was fully providing for the family.
A few years later, a son was born, and after another 5 years, a daughter.
Everything collapsed when it turned out that the adored husband had a mistress for a long time.
Olya did not want to tolerate betrayal, although her husband had no intention of leaving the family, everything suited him.
Olya, taking the children, went to her mother.
Having decided to punish his wife for leaving, the once adored husband refused to provide for the family, paying only small child support.
Mothers survived on their pensions, because a forty-year-old woman with several years of teaching experience in the distant past turned out to be of no use to anyone.
They didn’t even take her to school because the programs had changed over 15 years.
After freezing a little for pennies at the market as a seller, Olya decided that the time had come for drastic changes.
You can’t change your life in one night, but in one night you can change your thoughts, which change your life forever...
Having sold wedding ring and earrings, she paid for accounting courses.
Knowledge of the 1C program and literate Russian and Ukrainian languages helped her get a job as an assistant manager.
In 6 years, Olya has come a long way: from a coffee server to the chief accountant of the company!
Today she is quite happy, financially secure and loved, she is glad that she had enough strength then change your life.
She thinks with horror how her fate would have turned out if she had chickened out, forgiven and simply continued to pretend that she didn’t see anything!
Bravo!!! I give my friend a standing ovation!!!
How to change your life: where to start?
First, you need to figure out what exactly makes you unhappy, what is missing in your life and what is unnecessary in it.
You need to start from the root cause of trouble.
If the problems are in the professional sphere, then find out what exactly doesn’t suit you about your work:
Salary
Talk to your boss, if he doesn’t make contact, then maybe you should think about changing the office or looking for additional funds to earn money;
Relationships in the team
Try to establish contact, be as friendly and polite as possible, perhaps the problem lies not in the people around you, but in you?
If, indeed, your colleagues are a ball of kissing snakes, then stop wasting your time on them and look for a place to work with a more adequate and intelligent team;
Field of activity
Change it to something closer to you.
Often future profession parents choose their children, which is why a girl with a unique voice puffs over monthly reports, and a young man with the ability to foreign languages forced to guard the plant in rubber boots.
If you are currently experiencing discord in your personal life, then you should not rush off the handle and run to pack your bags.
First, think about whether there is a reason why yesterday your loved one suddenly became a stranger.
Perhaps you are just having temporary difficulties!
Try to breathe and change your life, directing it in a new direction for your relationship: arrange romantic evenings, travel together, communicate more, sign up for dancing or a gym to do one thing.
If nothing helps, and you honestly say to yourself: “Well, I don’t love you and even kill me,” then you shouldn’t waste your time and your spouse’s.
This is much more honest than torturing each other!
If there are no visible problems, but you still feel that something is missing in your life, then the problem may lie in a lack of spiritual development. In this case:
- read more, books are excellent teachers;
- attend exhibitions, presentations, performances, film premieres, etc.;
- do charity work - this does not mean “giving money”, work as a volunteer in a charity organization, communication with lonely old people, orphans or homeless animals - allows you to rethink a lot; Enter your email and receive new articles by email
Terry Southern
Greetings, my dear readers! Today we will talk about a very important and interesting topic, about how to change your life. To be honest, I am incredibly glad for your attention to this issue, because a person who wants to change his life is a real living person with innovative thinking, optimism, courage and willpower, with whom it is very pleasant to communicate and work. Such a person strives for the best, for the sake of interest and development, and does not hold on to the old out of fear of the new. I’m like that myself - I don’t like to hold on to the old until the last moment, I don’t like conservatism and I can’t stand the fear of everything new, so by force of will I suppress this fear in myself and boldly look forward into an unknown, but damn interesting future. I like everything new, I love change and even more I love being the initiator of these changes, which is what I am going to teach you in this article, because if life changes anyway, then let it do so thanks to, and not against, our desire. So in this article, friends, you and I will definitely find a common language.
So, to understand how to change your life, you need to ask yourself why we should change it at all? That is, why exactly do we need to initiate changes in our lives? Here we must understand the following: regardless of our desire, our life will still change - for the worse or for the better, to a greater or lesser extent, depending on the circumstances. The only question is whether we will control these changes as much as possible, or whether we will be forced to adapt to them, experiencing stress due to the fear associated with these unwanted and often unexpected changes. So, your friends’ life, in any case, is constantly changing, it’s just that most often these changes go unnoticed by you, since they happen gradually. And sometimes they shock people with their unexpectedness, as well as their unusualness and novelty, and people do not always manage to properly adapt to them, at least right away, because they are not prepared for them. Therefore, you and I need to change our lives, also so that someone else does not change it for us. We ourselves must manage our life so that it suits us, so we need to think about changing it constantly, even when we don’t want to change anything. There is no need to be afraid of what is natural and inevitable for this world. And the world is constantly changing, for it change is a natural process and inevitable, so you need to treat it completely calmly. And then, as I wrote above, changing your life and changing yourself along with it is interesting!
Friends, pay attention to how many people, on the one hand, want stability, calm, certainty, comfort and confidence in the future, and on the other, they want change, novelty, something unusual and interesting, they want some surprises, preferably pleasant ones, and in some cases even not very pleasant, but exciting. How is this possible, how can you want mutually exclusive things? And it’s very simple, it’s only from the point of view of linear logic that stability and change are mutually exclusive, but if you look at these things more broadly, if you think not logically, but in parallel, allowing for the simultaneous existence of both of these processes, then we will see that it’s all about control and a person’s management of changes in his life and what they lead to, and not in a person’s desire or unwillingness to have them in his life. Basically, of course, we need pleasant, positive changes, and, if possible, controllable by us, then we will be glad that our life is changing - for the better. No one will give up the best, even at the expense of the good, if he knows for sure that the best is actually better. Plus, a lifestyle based on constant change is quite interesting in itself, it allows a person to experience a lot of unusual sensations that we all strive for, so even in cases where everything is good and calm, people are drawn to change something. We were born in order to change this world, this need is embedded in our genes, and that’s what draws us to this. And if you also accustom a person to constant changes, then he will strive for them and will be happy about them, no matter what, even the most Negative consequences from these changes. But at the same time, for some reason we are still drawn to some kind of stability and certainty. I wonder why?
And the whole point is that you and I were taught to be afraid of change, we were taught that we need to live a familiar, measured life, in which everything is clear and understandable, and within for long years There are practically no significant changes that would force us to adapt to new conditions, learn something new, change ourselves in accordance with the new demands that life makes. Therefore, most people live in a psychological swamp, which drives them into a state of hibernation, making their life so monotonous that they do almost all their daily activities automatically. Agree, there is no need to remain vigilant when in your life, day after day, everything goes according to your usual scenario, when you don’t even really need to think about what and why you need to do today, tomorrow, the day after tomorrow. Home-work, home-work - this chain of repeating events in a person’s life is familiar to many, and it is only diluted with various kinds of social rituals [holidays, various traditional events, weddings, funerals, and so on], but in general, it is just like that - for many years. I even know people whose life follows the following chain: home-work-work-work-home. And the point is not even that they work a lot, very hard, but that they don’t like their work, it’s not interesting to them, and it doesn’t develop them at all. The question is, how can one live such a life? Only while in hibernation, nothing else. The healthy mind of a healthy person simply cannot stand such a life, he will go crazy. Why live like this, friends, why turn yourself into a zombie and live a life that is unnatural for a normal person? After all, such a life is, let’s say, meaningless. People can live like this for a hundred, two hundred, or a thousand years, and will not even notice how time flies, because the gray and monotonous days in their lives will be layered on top of each other and add up to years and decades of monotonous, monotonous, often gray and an absolutely meaningless life, the purpose of which is to maintain itself unchanged. But why? Why is such a life needed? That is the question. Is it really just to live? Do you think that there is no alternative to such a life, do you think you will not survive if you live differently? How can you survive!
Thus, friends, the most important thing you need to do to change your life is to give up stability, calmness, certainty, predictability and, in general, the automatism of your life, because all these are unnatural and unnecessary things for you that make the state of your life unnatural. mind. You need to give up all these stupid habits that you cultivate and cherish as part of yourself. The key word here is “refuse.” You need a renunciation - a renunciation of everything that has long been tightly integrated into your life, but that it is time and that you can change! Without refusal there will be no change - you need to let go of the old from your hands in order to take in the new, because you won’t be able to hold both in your hands at the same time. Don't be afraid of loss, don't be afraid of unpredictability, don't be afraid of the unknown - believe in your ability to take more of what you now have and what you can give up. And feel free to give up the old for the new - this is the only way you will change your life.
How can you give up stability, calm, certainty, automaticity of actions, habits, if they hold you in a stranglehold? After all, this is not so easy to do - it is difficult for a person to refuse something and part with something, for him this is a very painful procedure. To do this, friends, you need to stop living in fear, and as mentioned above, start believing in your abilities! And in order to believe in them, they need to be developed. If you have not developed professionally and personally for years, then of course you will not have any faith in yourself, because this faith will simply have nothing to rely on. You will be afraid of change until you make yourself a strong, independent, self-confident person by working on yourself. And no one is stopping you from doing this work.
So stop being afraid, stop shaking in front of the unknown, in front of changes, in front of everything new, awaken in yourself the human explorer, the human cognition, the human discoverer, the human conqueror, the human hunter, the human fighter and the human creator. No one, hear, no one is stopping you from making yourself like this - work on yourself, develop yourself, improve your professionalism, study new types of activities that are in demand in society, increase your competitiveness, and then no changes will be scary for you. Don’t be, friends, a trembling creature, this role is not for you, since you are reading this article. Become a person, in the fullest sense of the word, who boldly looks forward and is not afraid of anything. Remember - you have nothing to fear! All your fears are illusory. You just believe in them, that's why they scare you. You don't need any stability! You need change. Stability is needed by those who trade it, turning people into their slaves through fear. But you don’t need stability and constancy! Refuse them. And in order to finally get rid of the fear of change and instability, so to speak, to finish it off - you need to be the initiator of changes in your life, you need, as I call it, to strike first, since the best defense is an attack, and in our case we even We don’t defend ourselves - when we ourselves consciously change our lives - we command it. Courageously face your fear and you will overcome it! Throw away everything old and take everything new - your strength and will are your right! When you give up everything, everything old and unnecessary, you will have nothing to lose. And a person who has nothing to lose has nothing to fear! The main thing is that you have yourself - that's all you need in this life.
Just think, dear readers, what it means for a person to give up everything that he is used to, because this also means to wake up, open his eyes to reality and begin to behave in accordance with its current state, in accordance with its characteristics and taking into account your real capabilities and needs. This is a conscious approach to life, this real life, and not life in a dream, like those who are used to getting used to it. Life must change in order to be life, otherwise you will exist for your period of time and will not even understand why you lived at all. So don't be afraid - give up everything you're used to, then you can get a new one, even more interesting life! And your abilities, which determine your capabilities, I am sure, will be enough for you to get more and better. But nevertheless, do not forget to develop them. We live in a time when the world is changing faster than people.
The next thing you need to do in order to change your life is to design your future. You need to understand what and why you are going to change in your life, you must decide where you want to go so as not to go blindly. I have noticed many times, including myself, that the more a person dreams and plans, the more desirable for him are various changes in his life, most of which he himself usually initiates. Today it is difficult for us to stay ahead of the times, because the world, as I have already said, is changing incredibly quickly, but nevertheless it is possible. To do this, you need to dream, plan, fantasize, and not try to keep up with other people, copying their lives and themselves. Your dreams and fantasies are the energy that will allow you to get off the ground and start acting if these dreams and fantasies are very bright and beautiful. You see, the more vivid the pictures in your head are, which will be possible options your wonderful future, the stronger will be your desire to start doing something right now to make these pictures a reality. It is difficult for people with poorly developed imagination to imagine something that does not yet exist, so when something appears, they are not only surprised by it, but also afraid of it. And that is why they perceive any changes in their lives very painfully. But imagination can be developed, this is not a problem, you just need to set such a goal for yourself, and then, yourself or with someone else’s help, begin to realize it. And when you can imagine something new, something that is not yet in your life, but that you would like to see, you will be able to find a way/ways to get there. After all, in order to change your life, you need to at least approximately imagine what it should become after these changes. And she should get better, much better. So don’t limit yourself to your fantasies and desires.
Think right now and imagine - what new do you want to see in your life, and most importantly - what of the old are you willing to give up for this? And then ask yourself another question - what do you need to start doing right now to see it, to create it, to get to it, to get it? For example, would you like to change your place of residence, or perhaps you would like to change your job? Why not? Is the place where you live now the best in the world? Is your job exactly the job you’ve dreamed of all your life? Just don’t say that you are used to all this - because there is nothing worse for a “living”, conscious person than a habit. This is the next and final step you need to take to finally get rid of the fear of change and change your life. Let's see what it is.
There is, friends, one very important rule life, which sounds like this - don’t get used to anything! You especially shouldn’t get used to comfort, because comfort is very harmful for people, it deprives them of the acuity of perception and the ability to think. If you want to live - for real, and not like a plant, not like a machine, not like a biorobot - you need to unlearn getting used to it. It’s difficult, I understand, it’s not for nothing that they say that habit is second nature. And yet, for a person, changing something in this world is as natural as getting used to something. So why not get used to the need to constantly change something? Friends, you need to change your life not in order to necessarily improve it, but for the sake of the changes themselves. You can change your life for the worse, or get nothing from your changes, no one is ever immune from this. Would this mean that these changes were unnecessary and even harmful for you? No, it will not. Changes are needed in any case. And that's why. The fact is that a person has an opportunistic instinct that helps him, when necessary, adapt and adapt to any conditions. This instinct helps us survive. And the more strongly a person develops this instinct, the more viable he will be. And for instinct to develop, it must work, that is, be used. And for it to work, there must be a need for it. And for it to be necessary, you need to change your life as often as possible, even if the appropriateness of these changes is questionable. Therefore, even unsuccessful changes in life will benefit you, since they will become a kind of training for your capabilities. Therefore, in order to be guaranteed to change your life, you need to be ready for any changes, for any changes, for any results, both positive and negative. In general, I am convinced that any changes are always for the better, people just do not always realize this, especially in the context of time.
Also, friends, you should always remember that if you have no attachments, then there will be no suffering. Therefore, if you don’t like to suffer, don’t get attached to anything. Change your life more often, strive for something new and better, and there will be more joy and happiness in your life. That's basically all you need to do to change your life. It seems that everything is simple, you will agree. But some effort will have to be made. And I'm sure you will apply them.
In general, changing your life is beneficial and interesting, because when we do this, we, as I wrote above, really live, we feel reality, we feel the process of life itself, we remain vigilant when faced with something new, we think, adapting to new life, and, therefore, we are improving. Therefore, by changing our lives, we change ourselves, and by changing ourselves, we change our lives - the effect replaces the cause, and the cause replaces the effect. Everything is interconnected. And don’t forget, friends, if we ourselves do not strive to change our lives, then it will begin to change itself, which it already does, while forcing us to change. And it’s so unpleasant when your life begins to change without your, so to speak, permission. And this is not so much unpleasant as it is terrible, because, in the end, who is the master of your life - you, or someone else? If someone else is running your life, then you simply don't have it. You do not live, but exist, if you do not manage your life, if you allow other people to manage it. I hope you don’t let this happen and live your life the way you want, because your life is your life!
You can radically change your life in seven days. Armed with the simple laws of prosperity, you will adjust the world to your personal desires and requirements.
Simple practices will help you receive whatever you want from the Universe. First of all, you must believe in a positive outcome. Positive thoughts can take out the fear of difficulties, which is a weighty anchor on the path to happy life. Remember that your destiny is in your hands, and only you can change it.
Monday is the day of change
Our whole life is built on successive mechanisms. In the beginning there was a word (in our case, a thought), then there were desires and dreams, which are the impetus for action. To change your life, you first need to change your thoughts.
On the first day of the week, you should practice replacing negative ideas about your destiny with positive ones. Stop judging yourself, be loyal to your defeats. Thank chance for the experience that opens doors to a new and better life. Be positive about everything. Every situation is two sides of the same coin. Highlight only the best for yourself, leaving out the negative.
Remove phrases from your speech that destroy your enthusiasm and inner confidence. Use stable expressions with a positive charge - affirmations and positive attitudes. Over time you will notice that this habit successful person was a great addition for you.
Tuesday is gratitude day
Learn to appreciate what you already have. Thank the Higher Powers for everything you have at this stage of life. You can’t even imagine how many people there are around who with all their hearts want for themselves what is already available to you.
You should end Tuesday with words of gratitude and make it a rule to end every day like this. Use prayers for the coming sleep or meditations, a mandatory component of which will be words of gratitude. Thank the Universe for the opportunities provided, for the right to choose, for the people you met, and, of course, for the difficulties. Any defeat is just a lesson that brings you closer to your own destiny.
Wednesday is the day of certainty
If you are serious about changing your destiny, you need to immediately decide what you actually want from it. There is a place for everything in your life, just identify what you really need to be happy. Write all your dreams on paper. Write down the accompanying desires - possible and impossible, for the long term and for today. Don't overthink or control yourself: let your dreams come spontaneously. The main thing is to write down all your thoughts as they come. This practice is the right path to achieving your aspirations and improving your life in general.
Thursday is the best day
One of the laws of prosperity says: never put off until tomorrow what you can do today. On Thursday you will experience the practice of refusing any transfers. When you wake up in the morning and recharge yourself with positivity, give yourself the mindset that everything planned for that day will certainly come true. Every new day is a time for great achievements and success. Life will smile at you and help you realize everything you planned. And in the evening, consolidate the previously learned practices: thank the Creator and the Universe for the help provided and life lessons.
Friday is liberation day
People are capable of ruining their own lives with imposed opinions, doubts and fears. The possibilities of each person are limitless, which means that if one person can do it, so can the rest. It’s just that some people quickly find their hidden talents and develop them, while others bury their capabilities under other people’s opinions and internal complexes.
Don't be afraid of new things, discover for yourself fresh ideas every day. In case you're still in doubt, here's a great quote: "If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its entire life thinking it's stupid." Believe in yourself, because there is a genius hidden in every person. Try new things and don't worry about what people might think of you.
Saturday is the day of searching for purpose
By the sixth day of the week, you should already have accumulated a list of your desires and aspirations, which may contain even the most unrealistic and seemingly unattainable dreams. Look carefully at everything you wrote down and try to choose the dream that best reflects your essence. To make your choice easier, here are some questions you should ask yourself:
- What do I like to do?
- What talents do I have, what do I do best?
- How can I make money?
- If I had great wealth at my disposal, what would be the first thing I would do?
- If the world currency was happiness, what would I do/make a living?
These questions will help you find true goal and your own calling if you are honest with yourself. The most important thing in life is to do what you love. And if your activity brings happiness to you and the people around you, then joy and financial stability will not take long to arrive.
Sunday is results day
You have almost changed your own life, only a small matter remains. The last thing to understand is that positive change doesn’t happen overnight. They smoothly approach you, sometimes so slowly that you may not notice it at first. Remain patient and calm. After all, if you look at a flower in a pot every minute, it is unlikely that it will grow from your heavy gaze. Learn to wait and believe in the best. Remember to apply the above practices daily so that good opportunities do not keep you waiting.
Seven days, seven elementary rules, seven laws of prosperity will help you change your life for the better. This is only as possible as you believe in the best. When these practices become yours good habits, you will find true happiness and . Be happy today, good luck on the path to your dream, and don't forget to press the buttons and
How to radically change your life? This article contains, on the one hand, our personal qualities and shortcomings, on the other hand, reminders of how much we already have. We are all born with priceless gifts, but unfortunately we can forget about it.
Life is not about staying comfortable and safe. Life is about moving and taking justifiable risks.
It is about finding the way to your soul, in developing your personality, while maintaining integrity and humanity.
We live on this planet to develop and develop the world for the better.
How to change your life? What you need to pay attention to and let go:
1.
Temperament and hot temper. Temporary frustration is not a reason to do something stupid. Remember how many people we offended simply because we were not in the mood.
2. Petty grievances. Life is too short to waste it on this.
3. The idea that you are worse than others is not for you. Stop comparing yourself to others. We are all born into different circumstances, and there is nothing wrong with being different from others. The main thing is that you move towards your goal every day and improve yourself.
4. What we believe does not have to be true.. Everything evolves; what was once true is no longer true. Don’t be dead attached to your beliefs, be open to new things. Change can be very difficult and painful, but it is much better than being stuck in one place.
5. Yesterday has passed - what is happening today is more important. You are not the same person you were yesterday. You develop and become better. Dare to take a step forward, do not constantly look back, as you may forget how beautiful the present is.
6. The idea that problems are bad. We need them for our development, either we ourselves find problems and solve them, or problems will begin to find us.
7. Excessive restraint and inaccessibility. It's not illegal to be human. We all need to be more open friend to friend. Stop hiding behind mobile phone or tablet. Smile at people, be interested in them. Get to know the people close to you better.
8. If you think that you are far superior to everyone else, you are deeply mistaken. Don't be arrogant, be grateful for what you have. Everything comes back eventually. Be humble and be kind.
9. Unnecessary things. Think about whether you really need it, don’t pay attention to the trend or price. Think about the value of this item specifically to you.
10. Searching for happiness outside. Listen and find your own inner light. You don't find happiness on the outside, it starts within you. Pay attention to what improves you. Be good. Be conscious. Be someone who makes the world a better place.
11. Hypocrisy and lies. Be honest, otherwise how are you going to earn people's trust. Remember your promises. Be the kind of person you would want to spend time with.
12. Fears that intuition is wrong. It's better to learn from mistakes than to regret what you didn't do. Fear has consumed our hopes and dreams for a long time, don't let it do that anymore. Everything is inherent in a person in order to create and improve the world, only our fear limits our capabilities.
13. Waiting for ideal conditions. They will never come, the conditions will never be ideal. You just need to try and evaluate the result, diligently and persistently, doing the best that is possible at the moment.
14. Constant self-criticism. Your suffering will not help anyone. Allow yourself constructive criticism, which may inspire you, but nothing more. Forgive yourself and accept yourself for who you are.
15. People you're not good enough for. Make room for other people to accept you. You won't be alone if you take care of yourself and other people.
16. The desire to do something just to impress people. It's not worth it, do it to make yourself a better person and make the world a more joyful place. Do it because you think it's right.
17. The desire to please everyone. It's impossible to please everyone. If someone doesn't like you, they might just not be the right person for you to spend time with. What others say and think about you is only the result of their personal vision of the world.
18. The thought that it's too late. It's never too late. You set the limits yourself.
19. Procrastination. Stop procrastinating and putting things off until tomorrow. Start working on the things that matter to you.
Little things, we forget them, but these are priceless gifts, the true value of which we can only learn by losing them:
20. If you are reading this, it means you are still alive.. Life is a priceless gift!
21. Do you have access to the Internet?. You can learn new things and keep abreast of events.
22. You can read and study. This is the greatest opportunity to improve thinking and imagination.
23. You are not hungry or thirsty. You have the opportunity to keep your body in good condition. Unfortunately, not many people on Earth have this opportunity.
24. You have a roof over your head. You have somewhere to come at night and spend the night.
25. You have people who love and appreciate you.. You have someone to turn to for help.
26. You don't have to survive and fight for your life. If your streets are quiet and no gunshots are heard, you have something to be grateful for.
Something that will help you accept yourself, remembering what love is...
27. Find things you like about yourself. Cultivate Self-Love. Look at yourself in the mirror with kindness and love. If we can find and love something about ourselves, then it will be very easy for us to find kindness and love in the world. Reality is often a reflection of ourselves.
28. Be alone with who you are. Come back to yourself and know yourself.
29. Your time on this planet is precious.. Don't waste it. You shouldn't do something because others are doing it. You don't need permission to do things your way.
30. Keep your distance from those who drag you down. Know your worth! Your friends in life should motivate, inspire and respect you. Quality is always more important than quantity.
31. Start making the changes you need to make. If you want to see changes in your life, you must do things that you have never done before. And step away from things that drain you.
32. Thank yourself for what you have and who you are.. We don't always get what we want. But there are many people who will never have what you have now.
33. Do something every day that makes you happy. . Every day we make a choice, so why not make this choice in favor of your happiness?
34. Take advantage of new opportunities and ideas. Perhaps this case is exactly what will lead you to your goal. You never know what will open up next
35. Belief in your own abilities. Everything is possible! The main thing is to understand what exactly you want and persistently move towards the goal.
36. Writing your own story is always more interesting than watching other people’s. If you find yourself comparing yourself, remember that people tend to only reveal to the public best sides of your life, and keep silent about the worst moments.
37. Relax and take things less seriously. What kind of life is this if you fear and think about every step you take?
What you need to start doing for yourself and your happiness.
38. Start filtering out the clutter in your life.. Don't listen to the loudest voice, listen to the truthful one.
39. Start doing right choice
. Most of life is a result. Change begins now—from today's choices.
40. Being busy does not mean being productive. Do not confuse movement and progress, employment and real action.
41. Most of the things we worried about never happened. Replace worries with actions.
42. The best way move away from something negative, start moving towards something positive. Replace some actions with others, and another will definitely take the place of one habit.
43. Start doing what is right, not what is easier.. Just because you can doesn't mean you should. Just because it's easy doesn't mean it should be done.
44. Start comparing yourself to yourself.. The best way to celebrate personal progress is to compare yourself yesterday with today.
45. Start being genuinely happy for others..
46. Be more tolerant of those who think differently. Any point of view can be understood if you try to look at things through the eyes of another person.
47. Start giving without expecting gratitude in return.. People won't always be grateful, but here we're talking about about the long term.
48. Start creating the change you want to see in the world. We all have the ability to change our reality. Never forget this.
49. Re-evaluate the concept of wealth. Some people spend time to earn money. Other people to buy time for themselves. Think about it.
50. Show your loved ones how much they mean to you.. Our close relationships are vital to our happiness, don't forget that. (written about problems with loved ones)
51. Replace the “I have to” focused thought with the “I get” thought.. This way you can start doing a lot of things that you really didn’t want to do before.
52. Don't let one bad moment ruin many good ones.. Don't allow frustrations to develop within you.
53. Start measuring your progress every day, no matter how small or big.. The main thing is that you are moving towards your goal.
How to change your life? Reminders that will change the way you think.
54. Your attitude towards people and situations will change, and that's normal.. Just because you liked something at one time does not mean you will always like it.
55. You can always find tough life lessons along the way.. Change is not always pleasant. This will ultimately make you a better person.
56. Those who complain the most achieve the least.. It's not so bad if you tried and didn't succeed, it's worse if you do nothing and complain.
57. The quality of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.. You are what you think. You can't change anything if you can't change your thinking.
58. The best thing you can do for others is to improve yourself.. When we are happy, we become for others best friends, the best lovers, the best members of society.
59. You can learn something from everyone you meet.. Our meetings are not accidental. Every meeting brings something. It may not be at all what you expected, but you will need it anyway.
60. If you're feeling weird or alone... Relax, you're not the only one feeling this way.. You are unique, and you are in this world only because you are needed in it.
Important questions you can ask yourself right now:
The questions we ask ourselves now determine what kind of people we will become in the future.
61. What is behind suffering and limitations? If you want to gain advantages in life, you have to sacrifice something. If you want to lose weight, you have to sweat first, if you want to build big muscles - hard months in the gym. For any positive changes in life you have to pay. Are you ready to pay this price?
61. If I continue to do what I am doing today, who will I be in 5 years?
62. What do I spend too much time on and what do I spend too little time on? Maybe it's time to think not about the urgent, but about the important?
63. How am I deceiving myself? Maybe you refuse to believe the truth? Opportunities open up when there is no room for self-deception.
64. What holds me back and throws me back? Too often we let the past dictate what we do today.
65. What do I not want others to know about me? This is a blow to insecurity. Problems and shortcomings are part of every person's life. And ultimately, confidence comes from understanding that all people have flaws.
66. Does my environment help or harm me? It's better to be alone than in bad company.
67. What is worth smiling about right now? I'm sure there is always a reason to be in a good mood.
68. Hard times don't last forever. Everything changes and everything passes. (see article about that)
69. You are not the center of the universe. Not everything should happen just because you want it to.
70. Today is a priceless gift. You still have many days on Earth, but they are limited. Do the best you can.
And also check for every day.
In conclusion, I would like to say the following.
Don't be afraid to let go of your limitations and inhibitions. Don't be afraid to be disappointed. Don't be afraid to get hurt or get hurt. Understand that just because you can, doesn't mean you should. Just because it's easy doesn't mean it should be done. Do what is right in life, not what is easier to do.
Ask yourself about the cost and consequences. Then think about the new opportunities that could arise if you dare to take action. Based on this, make your choice.
Appreciate your freedom and enjoy it. Focus more on being interested rather than engaging. If you think the sun is shining brighter on the other side, it's time to change your perspective, stop comparing, stop complaining and start working hard.
More than the battle is our mind. This is the place where the biggest conflicts happen, the place where half the things that were supposed to happen never happened. Watch your thoughts and don't let bad ideas stay in your mind because they will take away your joy and happiness. It is very important to learn to tell yourself in time that thoughts are not us, they are just guests in our mind.
You can't control everything, but it's foolish to neglect what you can control. You can decide how you spend your time and with whom you associate, with whom you share your life, money and energy. You can choose what you will eat, read and study every day. You can choose your words and actions. You can choose how you are going to respond to unfortunate situations when they arise. You can choose your attitude towards yourself and towards the world.
How to change your life for the better - where to start (psychology)? The most important answer to this question is obvious and suggests itself: you need to make a final decision, as they say, “freak out” and not put it off any longer. This article is effective, and most importantly, simple technique, with which in just 4 weeks you will change your life for the better in every area.
I really hope you will stop and finally move from reading many tips to action! The technique is very simple, described point by point and has only 4 blocks (a week for each block).
Small but helpful advice: keep yourself a Personal Diary. I assure you, as soon as you begin to make efforts on yourself and “drag” yourself into new life, many thoughts will appear that are interesting to write down.
I promise, if you overcome your laziness and follow all the steps, in a month you won’t recognize yourself!
Exercise 1. Start getting up at 6 am!
Get up at 6 am and you will have time for yourself while your family is sleeping. Admit it, there is never enough time for yourself. And you just can’t finish reading a book, clean out an old closet, start learning English, start doing exercises, etc.
Morning is perfect time in order to do something useful and new just for yourself. When you are lazy and don’t want to get up, it doesn’t mean you’re tired at all, but it means that you don’t want to live a little more than “normal.” You don't want to get up because you don't like your job. Remember that day when you had to get up at 6 am to go to the airport for your holiday in Thailand. On such a day everyone jumps up with joy!
Conclusion: in order to easily get up at 6 in the morning, you need to build for yourself a life in which you want to break into your life every morning and learn a lot of new things with interest, including about yourself!
Task #2. Start Light Eating!
Doing the work of changing your life for the better will require a tremendous amount of energy. And your body is already having a hard time, because it supports your simple “normal” life, despite alcohol, cigarettes, fatty foods, sweets, etc. The list goes on, everyone has their own.
You can choose the type of nutrition that seems right to you, or at least refuse something that is not healthy or even harmful. For example, I gave up, not for a month, but forever, sweet sodas, chips, cookies, processed foods, ketchups, mojo, fast foods and similar products that have nothing in common with healthy eating. I also don't eat meat on Wednesdays and Fridays. This relieves the body, gives it a little rest, and also has a spiritual meaning.
So, eliminate the harmful things, and reduce the portions. Don't forget to drink water throughout the day. And don't overeat before bed. Feed your body healthy, light, delicious food. And he will thank you with the energy you need for decisive action!
Task #3. Start playing sports!
Please don't whine! Sport is the most important thing for a strong spirit and determination. To awaken your determination, you need to stir up your tired body. You can choose any options: dancing, fitness, running, swimming. And if sports are not your thing, you can go the simplest way - in the morning, instead of exercising, do the “Plank” exercise for 2 minutes and walk 4-5 km a day (for example, get off a couple of stops before work and walk and don’t use the elevator anymore - go up the stairs).
Week #2. Clear space, environment and affairs
Exercise 1. Clear your space!
This is a difficult task - you need to throw away everything you haven't used more than a year! If you stuff everything on the mezzanine, the task will not count. We have heard many times from psychologists and coaches that every useless thing in our home it takes up not only space, but also our energy. That we need to make room for new and truly useful things.
Finally put this knowledge into practice. Leave only the things you need and those that inspire and delight. Do It general cleaning, remove dust in the farthest corners.
Task #2. Clear your thoughts of business and obligations!
Many of us have been promising ourselves for many years in a row to learn English, quit smoking, or go to the outback to visit our aunt, who last time seen as a child. There are many plans that we carry over from year to year!
So, psychologists say that each such point of the plan “pulls” energy from us, because deep in the subconscious we “think” about it. What to do about it? You can solve this problem right now. Remember all the promises you made to others or yourself. And decide what to do about it.
There are 3 options: 1) start doing it, 2) abandon it completely and cross it off the list of plans, 3) postpone it to a clearly designated time or set a clear condition for completion. For example, starting to learn English NOW is not critical for me. I will start learning when the motivation appears, for example, I plan to travel 2 times a year to different countries.
Task #3. Clean up your surroundings!
This is a common problem. It is uncomfortable for us to end relationships with people, although we know for sure that we do not need these relationships, because they plunge us into depression, weigh us down, and pull us back. I assure you that this is false modesty. Right now you need to make a decision to no longer communicate with those who have nothing to learn from, who are not happy with everyone, criticize everyone, and dictate their opinion to everyone.
Learn to say “no” to such people. Pay any price for your freedom, even if you hear accusations against you that you are “ungrateful,” “ill-mannered,” and so on.
Important! The exception is parents. With parents, on the contrary, relationships need to be improved, no matter how difficult it may be.
Week #3. Start writing down your dreams, goals and plans
Exercise 1. Start writing down and implementing plans!
A Personal Diary will come in handy. You can write in it not only plans, but also your thoughts. You already have a plan of assignments from last weeks. If you don’t really want to do some of them, either do them right away, or cross them out, or postpone them to a clearly defined time (as with learning English). In all these options, you will receive a surge of strength and a great desire to live and create.
Just don’t deceive yourself again, but write goals and tasks in the plan that you really want to accomplish. So that your hands itch with anticipation and you want to start doing it quickly and with great enthusiasm.
Motivation can be a phrase that must be repeated every morning. Start really writing Interesting book of your life - a chapter a day!
Task #2. Write a list of “incredible plans”!
This is the most interesting task. Imagine that you have everything (money, time) to make your most incredible dream come true. Like to climb Everest or something like that. Make a list of such incredible plans. I assure you that many of them will come true in a few years and will seem very modest to you.
Task #3. Plan daily!
Get into the habit of writing a plan for the next day in the evening. You can write in your paper Personal Diary or in an electronic one, it doesn’t matter (here are the best ones mobile applications for maintaining Personal Diary - Penzu, Diaro). Let it be very short plan, the main thing is that it exists. For what? - you ask. Even if you never remember the previous day's plan again, your productivity that day will increase significantly.
Important! Don't forget about the global plan, check whether you are deviating from the main course?
Week #4. Expand the boundaries
Exercise 1. Start living differently!
Even in small things, start living and doing everything differently. Take a different route to work, and you will meet new people, see new beautiful streets. Go to another cafe. Finally decide to go to an expensive store. Try a new hobby, for example, alpine skiing, Latin American dancing. It's educational and fun. Don't be afraid to do something you don't have experience with.
It is important to gain self-confidence and cultivate the habit of not being afraid to go off the beaten path, and to easily start doing something new!
Task #2. Get out of your comfort zone!
Did you really manage to complete all the previous tasks? If yes, then you have already managed to leave your comfort zone! But you need to not stop, but move on and boldly look your fears in the eye and fight them.
They will only help radical methods. Are you afraid of heights? We urgently need to jump with a parachute. If you are afraid of your boss, prepare and come to him with a new idea. Afraid of company strangers- go to a party, and don’t talk to your friend about how to overcome this fear. Are you afraid to change jobs or start your own business? Without delay, write a resume and find new job. Don't be afraid! Now the times have come when you can easily find a new job or learn a new one
Other useful articles:
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It is also important to have a rest alone with yourself and allow yourself not to think about anything, but only to contemplate the beauty of the world around you. Or stop after all the fuss and honestly ask yourself if everything is fine, how to live on?
Summary
You are already at the beginning of the path. If you ask “How to change your life for the better - where to start?”, then some part of your soul yearns for a new life. So take advantage of the moment, please don’t delay, but conduct this experiment. Just 1 month of doing simple tasks and you won’t know your life. Let it be just a path at the beginning, but then it will turn into a real one. interesting road with exciting adventures.
Finally, watch this wonderful and useful video from the famous psychologist, trainer Pavel Kochkin, “How to find yourself (7 stages).” Answer his questions and understand where you are stuck and how to move on.
I wish everyone patience, inspiration and a lot of strength to make your dreams come true!
