Long-awaited, exciting, unpredictable, making the heart beat faster - that’s exactly what a first date is like. You prepare for it long before the appointed day, going over possible options for carrying it out in your head. The most interesting thing is that it is almost impossible to predict the course of a date, and acting “on paper” is impossible in most cases. However, it won’t hurt to familiarize yourself with some recommendations for a first date - what if something comes in handy?
Choosing a place and time for a date
For a first date, it is preferable to choose standard options: dinner in a cafe, a walk in the park, a trip to the cinema, a picnic in nature. Still, you don’t know each other well enough yet to arrange some kind of extreme date or dinner at home. The time for the first date is not necessarily in the evening, although this is a classic option, because the evening is more conducive to romance and intimacy.
Tips for her
Usually the guy suggests the place for the date. A girl should take into account only a few points. Do not agree to a first date in a suspicious place (at his home, in unfamiliar and uncrowded places) - after all, you cannot vouch for the decency of every new gentleman. If there is a choice (whatever - it just has to be!), give preference to the simplest option - and romance and extreme sports will wait until the next dates.
Tips for him
When choosing a place for a first date, consider whether it will be affordable for you. After all, even in the age of emancipation, it is considered good form if a guy pays for a girl in a restaurant. However, there is also no need to impress the object of your sympathy with a wide pocket - you should not spoil her from the first date.
But you can think of pleasant surprises. A few minutes of conversation with her friends - and the girl’s list of preferences is ready. Try to find out what she likes to eat and drink, and pre-order these dishes at the cafe. Or organize a picnic with your own signature kebabs (unless the girl is a vegetarian - such delicate moments also need to be “felt out”). Or buy tickets to the premiere of a movie starring her favorite actor.
We're going on a date
When going on a date, pay attention to your appearance. It is not necessary to buy a special outfit for this occasion - just review your wardrobe in advance and choose clothes in which you will feel comfortable. And one more thing - it must correspond to the place where the first date will take place. Ripped jeans for a meeting in a restaurant or an evening dress at a picnic will look ridiculous and ruin the impression of you - but this is so important on the first date!
Tips for her
Girls who are accustomed to paying a lot of attention to their appearance run the risk of “overdoing it” on the first date. A “three-story” hairstyle specially done in a salon can scare away a guy. New high-heeled shoes will rub your feet and make you spend the whole evening thinking about how to quickly get home and take them off. Half a bottle of perfume, poured on yourself, will suffocate with its aroma anyone within a radius of two meters.
Of course, you don't need to wear a tracksuit on your first date (unless, of course, you're meeting at the gym). Choose as an outfit something from your favorite “tested” clothes that highlight the advantages of your body (and, of course, hide its flaws). In it you will feel free, relaxed, and you will not need to think about whether you look good..
Style your hair as you normally would. Of course, creepy ponytails have no place here, but ordinary “home” styling with a hair dryer and hair foam is quite enough. A couple of drops of perfume on the right places (behind the ears, in the hollow between the collarbones, on the inside of the wrists) - and you are ready to go on your first date!
Tips for him
If it is typical for girls to exaggerate the importance of outfits on the first date, then guys have the opposite problem. They often do not pay due attention to their appearance; they may not notice a torn button or will not iron their shirt once again. But girls love neat guys so much!
Therefore, do not forget that clothes should be clean and ironed, all buttons and cufflinks should be in place, shoes should be polished. There is no need to talk about the fact that you should take a shower and shave before a date (even if two-day stubble seems pretty cute to you).
And, of course, when going on a first date, don’t forget to take a bouquet of flowers with you.
How to behave on a first date
Naturally, at ease, trying to remain yourself and be confident. You're on vacation and not taking an exam, right? Relax, throw all kinds of “what” and “how” out of your head, try to just have a good time, have fun. It may not be that easy to do, but you should at least strive for it.
Don't pretend to be someone you're not. The “nerd” still can’t pretend to be macho, and the “chubby girl” won’t hide the fact that she loves to eat well without touching the food. It’s better to focus not on masking your shortcomings, but on demonstrating your strengths (just without fanaticism!)
Tips for her
If he told a joke, even if you didn’t find it funny, smile. There is no need to giggle or burst into loud laughter (by the way, laughter is also a good thing to practice before a date - and this is not a joke!)
Don’t look at him with eyes full of adoration - you don’t want to seem easily accessible to the guy? For the same purposes, behave modestly, try to give the impression of a serious, unapproachable girl (but not the Snow Queen, of course - this will completely scare the guy away). For a long-term relationship, a man, as you know, prefers to choose a girl who is more modest than the one who will go to bed with him after the first date.
However, if sex is your only goal for this meeting, you don’t have to play hard to get. However, you don’t need to show with all your appearance that you can’t wait to be in bed with him. This is vulgar and is not liked by the vast majority of men. Even if the first date ends in sex, the man should think that it was solely his initiative, and you could not resist the influence of his charms.
Tips for him
Don’t be afraid of unauthorized touches: a kiss on the cheek, a light touch on the arm, or waist will not be considered harassment by a girl. Tactile contact that does not cross generally accepted boundaries can and should exist.
Try to take a closer look at the girl and choose behavior tactics depending on her character. Some ladies love slightly boorish, arrogant men. Others adore witty people, people with a good sense of humor. Still others want to see confidence, strong character, and perhaps a certain amount of despotism in a man. Of course, you are not a psychologist, but a few leading questions (but not direct questions!) can clarify the situation.
What you can and cannot talk about on a first date
About what might be interesting to the interlocutor, arouse curiosity, intrigue. About your hobbies and the hobbies of your interlocutor. About your virtues. About interesting cases from life. About “eternal” topics (just don’t get into the weeds!)
Don't focus only on yourself, ask questions and listen carefully to the answers to them. After all, you want to know more about the subject of your sympathy? Don’t interrupt, look straight into the eyes, smile and nod, in conversation, try to call your interlocutor by name more often - in general, before the first date, recall the basic rules of conversation in your memory.
What should you not tell yourself or ask your interlocutor about? About your financial situation, work, too intimate details of your biography, life problems, illnesses, former relationships. Do not under any circumstances focus attention on your shortcomings, fears and worries - try to emphasize in the conversation only your positive qualities, achievements and successes.
In general, it is better to talk about what you like than about what causes negative emotions - otherwise you will be given the impression of being a bore, a person who is constantly dissatisfied with something.
Tips for her
Girls are characterized by increased talkativeness. Try to control yourself, even if a hundred and one questions for the guy are swarming in your head, and all of them are ready to fall on him at any moment. When asking questions, try to avoid those that demonstrate excessive interest in the guy - he should not understand that he is terribly interested in you.
If he talks about his achievements, praise him, men are simply blown away by this. Praise should be appropriate and natural, otherwise the guy will feel the falseness in your words.
Ask questions that may relate to your common interests - he is probably not indifferent to the topic of sports and absolutely hates Dom-2.
Tips for him
The guy's strong point is telling jokes, but you can't get away with funny stories alone, otherwise you'll be branded as a frivolous jokester. Anecdotes should be “on topic”; do not bore the girl with them.
Don't forget to give compliments - they should also be appropriate and truthful. If a girl is a little plump, you shouldn’t talk about her slimness - it will only offend, and a compliment will be perceived as ridicule.
When talking about your strengths, don't brag. Some guys like to embellish their achievements and amaze the girl with fictitious stories from their own biography. This is exactly what you shouldn’t do - don’t lie, otherwise you risk getting entangled in your own lies, and the girl will simply lose all trust in you.
And lastly, try not to swear.
After the first date
If the person is attractive and you have not yet run away from the date, then the relationship has a chance to develop further. The ideal option is if this sympathy is mutual. There are several options for developing relationships in this case (setting a date for the next meeting, intimacy, in rare cases (I've been looking for you all my life!) - deciding to immediately live together), but all of them are possible only by mutual consent.
If you don't like the person, let him know that. There is no need to rudely turn him off, even if he completely disappoints you. But there’s no need to confuse things with florid answers. For this case, there are “soft” but very specific phrases (for example, “Thank you, it was a pleasure spending time with you, I hope we will remain friends”). An adequate person should perceive these words normally. Well, if you are “lucky enough” to meet a slow-witted person or an annoying admirer (fan), then you can use more precise wording.
Tips for her
Did you like him? Great! Don’t throw yourself on his neck with the exclamation “You are the man of my dreams!”, Just try to show (with a look, a smile, a touch) your favor towards him. If there is mutual sympathy, he will definitely inquire about the next meeting. If he doesn’t ask, you can take a risk and take the initiative, but in this case, be prepared for a refusal (at best, an evasive answer).
Tips for him
The female soul is vulnerable - but this does not mean at all that out of pity you need to continue dating a girl who turned out to be not to your liking. Therefore, re-read the second paragraph of this chapter again - it applies to both sexes.
If the girl is cute, do not hesitate and set a date for the next meeting. Still, this initiative must come from a man.
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Whether the first date will be your last or will lead to a continuation of the relationship, whether it will end in a passionate night or a light kiss goodbye, whether you like this person or you would prefer to never meet with him again - in any case, a first date is a good life experience. Therefore, mentally - and not only - thank the person for this meeting.
Have a great first date!
Often a young man has a question about how a man should behave on his first date with a girl. Many people feel nervous about this, fearing not to please, not to impress, or simply not to please the fair sex, as a result of which the first date may be the last. To be afraid of this is a big mistake. On a date with a woman, you should feel confident, relaxed and enjoy communicating with her. This is very important if you want the meeting to be successful and end with wild sex at your home.
How not to behave on a first date
Every man has stereotypes about how to behave on a first date. Usually they are imposed by society, television and women themselves in order to promote a man’s money and increase women’s self-esteem. But they don't lead you to success.
Here are some popular ineffective first date beliefs:
- a man must definitely give a woman flowers or one rose;
- a woman can be as late as she wants, and a man must wait for her;
- a man must pay for a girl;
- touching and kissing a woman on the first date is prohibited;
- the guy must take the girl home after the date, etc.
As you can see, everything is for women and nothing for men. But understand the main thing, such actions on your part in no way lead to a successful completion of the date for you, that is, to sex. A girl may be pleasant and interested in communicating with you if you do all the above things, but when you invite her to go to your home, she will say that she is not ready yet.
Indeed, why should she come to you if she has already received all the goodies from you for nothing, and you haven’t aroused her at all? You didn’t touch her, didn’t pester her, didn’t evoke the right emotions in her, indulged her whims, paid for her and behaved like a snot. What was she supposed to get excited about? And then the guys are surprised when they are told the cherished phrase: “Let’s remain friends.” But there is nothing surprising here; she will really perceive you as a friend. And she will fuck with someone who doesn’t care about her opinion, who doesn’t pay for her, but constantly touches and excites her. She understands that a date with a girl is not a gift for such a person, and any other girl would like to be in her place. This is the harsh truth of life.
How to conduct a date, two possible strategies
There are several possible options for developing a first date. , so I won’t repeat myself. We are now interested in two possible scenarios that will benefit you. Since for the most part they depend only on your actions, they can be called dating strategies.
Your dating goals should be the following:
- you want the girl to come on another date;
- you want to get her into bed tonight.
Depending on your goal, your actions may differ specifically. In the first case, it is enough to simply be an interesting person, to inspire confidence in the girl and slightly excite her, leaving her at the peak of emotions. In the second case, you may have to show a lot of persistence to achieve your goal.
It also happens that you plan to have a first date with a girl so that she then agrees to a second one, but you see that the girl is clearly excited and wants you. Or you planned to seduce her today, but she won’t even let you touch her hand. In such cases, you should be flexible and act according to the circumstances.
Remember! If a girl is ready to give herself to you right now, don't wait for the next date - act now! If you want sex with her, and she reacts negatively to all your actions, take a step back and try to interest her even more, inspire confidence and excite her.
If you want to understand the topic of pickup well, I advise you in one half of the cases to make the girl agree to another meeting, in the second - to pressure her for sex that same evening. If you want to become a cool seducer, at first it is not so much the result that is important, but rather increasing your experience of communicating with women in different situations and practicing the right actions. So just do what you need to do without hoping for success, and it will come sooner or later.
How to behave on a first date so that a girl wants to meet you again
If you decide to follow the first, simplest path of seduction - to do everything so that the girl agrees to come to another meeting, most likely you have little experience with women, and you are afraid of missing out on her.
Be honest with yourself. Understand that if you do this for this reason alone, you are being ineffective. The main secret to success on a date with a girl is to do what you like without worrying about the results of your actions.
Of course, you should have some kind of plan for a date, but in this case the plan is a labile thing. All the same, you won’t fully calculate all the options, and it’s pointless to turn a date with a woman into a chess game. Learn to get high and enjoy communicating with the fair sex. After all, by not doing what you want, pleasing only the girl, or acting strictly according to the scheme, you miss the best moments of your life when you could do what would truly bring you pleasure.
Remember! Don't lose your life! Understand that on a date you can do absolutely whatever you want, within the framework of the criminal code. Everything else is prejudice!
If you want to hug this girl, hug her! Kiss - kiss! Tell her a poem - do it! Pinch your butt or chest - go ahead! It is important that you get a thrill from the girl, from spending time and from life, because you have only one, you won’t have another.
Remember! Don't miss a minute! Don't look for excuses for yourself! If you can sleep with this girl today, do it! Tomorrow you may simply no longer exist, or stop standing, or something else. Therefore, in order not to regret the wasted or missed moments, act today and right now!
Of course, you may have objective reasons why you cannot sleep with this girl today:
- you didn’t excite her enough, interest her or didn’t inspire confidence in yourself, which is why she refuses to go to your house, and you don’t have time to get along with her;
- you are not yet sure whether you want to continue communicating with this girl, since you have other girls.
If you want a woman to agree to meet with you again, on a date you should build her confidence in you and increase your importance. You can do this through your actions and words.
- Invite a girl only to a place that is familiar to you. You can go to a new place for the two of you, but it’s better to go where you know everything well. There you will feel at ease;
- Don't sweat too much. You shouldn’t throw a feast for the whole world on the occasion that she agreed to go on a date with you. Approach this issue wisely and balance your expenses with your income;
- Act natural. Let the girl perceive you as you are. Don't be afraid she won't like you. If you don't like this one, you'll like the other one;
- Sometimes it's appropriate for a girl to pay for you. Paradoxically, this is how she becomes;
- Be polite and gallant. At the same time, you can invite the girl to look after you, for example, pour tea, hand over the phone, etc.;
- The more emotions, the better! The more emotional the date, the more interesting it will be. Tell funny stories, touch on erotic themes. If resources allow, you can invite a girl to an amusement park or just unexpectedly pick her up and spin her around. You can get wet together in the rain - it all depends on your imagination;
- It's good to touch her things. Ask the girl to look at her phone or key fob - whatever. Play with this thing a little and give it back. Subconsciously, the girl will grow trust in the one to whom she just entrusted her things and they returned intact;
- Leave at the peak of interest. If you have gone on the path of several dates, you should not stay too long. The optimal time for a first date is 1 hour. Try to leave at the peak of interest. Follow the principle of Brazilian TV series - each episode ends at the most interesting point, making viewers look forward to the next one.
How to behave on the first date so you can have sex with her today
If you decide to try to sleep with this girl today, you may have to go through a difficult road, but not always. It often happened to me that a girl herself wanted sex on the first date without much effort on my part. Moreover, it was impossible to describe her with an indecent word. I was even able to trick virgins into having sex on the first date. And if you think that this is unrealistic, you simply have not had such experience yet.
To get a girl to have sex on the first date, you also need to interest her, inspire confidence, plus excite her. In addition, you will need to be quite persistent. I'll also tell you about how to seduce a girl for sex. on the first date– this is the topic of a separate article. For now, remember the fundamental feelings that you need to evoke in a girl on the first date in order to have sex with her:
- interest;
- confidence;
- excitation.
If you decide to seduce her today, you will have to go all the way. The trick is not to be afraid of the girl's refusal. It is better that you lose her now than in a few days - this way you will save time, which you can spend on seducing other, more accommodating women.
Be prepared for the fact that the first reaction to your advances will almost always be refusal. But you shouldn't give up. I can give a lot of examples, both from my life and from the lives of my friends, when a girl first refused, and then the guy showed enough persistence and she gave up.
Important! There is a clear line between persistence and rape. Unlike persistence, rape is a serious, criminal offense. Therefore, if you see that the young lady clearly and decisively refuses to sleep with you, take a step back and make sure that you did everything correctly in the previous stages.
Of course, there are girls who only get pleasure from sex when a guy takes them hard, and sexual intercourse occurs on the verge of rape. You need to feel such women, and as your experience increases, you will get better and better at it. But remember, in this case it is better not to do it than to do it and then regret it for the rest of your life.
If a girl refuses you harshly, and not out of decency, then you are doing something wrong. If you want to sleep with a girl on the first date, the order of your actions should be as follows: interest her, inspire confidence, excite her, act. If the young lady clearly doesn’t want to sleep with you, it means you messed up at some of the previous stages. To seduce her, you need to return to the previous stages of seduction and evoke the necessary feelings in the fair sex.
Conclusion
Summarize. On a date, you can follow one of two effective strategies:
- Behave in such a way that the girl will come on a second date;
- Seduce her today.
I advise you to act according to the second scenario, as it trains courage, brings more pleasure, increases your self-esteem and saves time. If a girl clearly and decisively does not want to sleep with you, but you really like her, behave in such a way that she agrees to come to another meeting.
In order for a girl to agree to come on the next date, you need to:
- Get her interested in something;
- Instill trust;
- Slightly excite;
- Leave at the peak of interest.
If you want to sleep with her, you need:
- Get her interested;
- Instill trust;
- excite;
- Be persistent enough and have sex with her.
Each of these steps requires a separate detailed analysis, which I will soon post in this blog.
Now, knowing what was said above the day before, and letting the girl know from the first minutes of the date that you appreciated her work and you like her, you will already receive advantages from her in your profile.
“I am very pleased to be next to such a charming and elegant lady. Thank you for being with me today, I am very pleased.”
Give her compliments. Not standard. Ours and for her. “You have amazing taste in choosing eau de toilette. What is this? Nina Rcci or Roberto Cavalli? And it doesn’t matter that you don’t understand perfume. What is important is your attention to detail and your pleasantness towards them.
Behavior should be adequate, but with moments of unpredictability and intrigue. This turns on the weaker sex. And of course, do not put a specific woman, if it is not your mother, in the rank of the Goddess of Olympus. She will put on the crown from the first hours of the meeting, oh, you will suffer with her, fulfilling her whims. Your relationship should begin to be built on the same “thickness foundations.”
It will be nice if she notices/finds out that other girls are interested in you, they know how to like you, and they reciprocate. The resource in this situation is the girls around her: waitresses, cashiers, consultants, anyone, the main thing is to get a positive reaction from them towards yourself in front of her.
Note: girls who are at work will more easily express their sympathy for you, since they do not have the right to be rude and ignored due to their job responsibilities. 😉
If it’s not clear why you should do this, ask in the comments and I’ll give you a breakdown.
Sweets in moderation
Another technique that works on an unconscious level, and if you master it to the point of automatism, your success in falling in love will increase significantly. Remember: give her everything, a little less than she wants. I did not make this grand discovery right away. But damn, how great it works! When kissing her, stop first; if you touch her, remove your hand, and do not wait until she removes it herself. You tell a story, create intrigue, and ask her about something distant, let her take the initiative in continuing your story. And try your best in everything.
It’s like they showed you a box of chocolates, and you think that you can eat all of them, but as soon as you’ve eaten a couple of pieces, the box is covered and put away on the sideboard, with the words: “the rest will come later.” And you, remembering the taste of these sweets, look up like a cat. It's the same with your partner.
Communication for both
What to talk about with a girl on a date? This is the top question from a huge number of insecure guys. My friend, I’m really telling you that you can communicate on absolutely any topic, the main thing is that both are in the right mood. If she is very positive about you, constantly laughs at jokes and smiles at you, you can at least turn on the “delusion generator” - words do not carry any meaning in this situation.
It's not so important what you say, it's important How And at what point.
And you can start to lift her spirits by showing sincere interest in her. Motivate her to talk about herself. And really listen to her and ask questions. There is no more favorite topic for a person than himself. And if you consider that in the world now the majority are only interested in themselves and their problems, then a man’s honest interest in a woman’s personal stories will create the right impression of you.
In the same way, when talking about yourself, don’t spread your tail like a peacock, but don’t hide your real talents and successes too much. There is an opinion that you shouldn’t show off all your advantages on first dates, but hide them for as long as possible. That’s right, with one “but”: if you don’t interest the girl from the start, the finish may not happen. See how simple it is. 😛
ABOUT! I remembered the top anti-successful topics: don’t even think about talking about your life’s failures, problems, and especially about the fact that you have complexes with the opposite sex. This is cruel, very poorly appreciated by partners.
And to conclude the topic: how do you feel that you are comfortable, sexy, and interesting with a new girl - the words themselves will flow from you like a river. So get into this state quickly!
The game is our everything
Do you want, as I say, to “irritate” the beauty? Play the game “closer-further” with her. This is the most common technique for shaking emotions. The only thing it doesn't allow is to remain neutral. By the way, it works in both directions, that is, if the girls still “put” on the ban and secretly entered our gazebo and sit “warming” their cute ears. Do you think the guys and I are against it? God forbid!
So, the main idea is that it’s like a contract shower, only not physical, but emotional. “You have great taste in choosing dresses and shoes! Oh, if I were a girl, I would be jealous of you! But here's your handbag... please tell me that it was just given to you as a gift, and you had no other choice but to accept it! Oh, how many emotions you will evoke in her with such a phrase. Plus a carload of questions and new topics for conversation and discussion of her tastes.
“I was hooked by your voice, even on the phone, when we agreed on our date! He is so feminine and exciting... You definitely need to be an actress, a crowd of fans is guaranteed. But your look when we first met... Wow, how it alarmed me! ... It felt like I already owed you two ice creams and a charter flight to Haiti!”
Rave? Yes! But do you really think that she won’t start asking what’s wrong with her look? I would bet against this opinion.
In general, the essence is: you praise and envy one thing, deny the other, joke about it, find out.
A rough example of the “Stone Age” stage of your life: you protect the girl you like from the attacks of your classmates, but at the same time, during recess, you grab her pencil case and run away so that she can run after you, taking it away. Romance, what... 😆
Touching and kissing
Everything is going well for you, and you want the next stage of rapprochement? And it is right! You can’t imagine what a high percentage of relationship breakdowns are due to a guy’s indecision to move beyond talking. As pick-up artists say, the girl is fading. Not in the literal sense, of course. Since we already know that ladies are not always good at taking initiative, the main “violin of the concert” remains with us.
So, how do you start touching and caressing her? There is nothing simpler and more non-binding than straightening her hair or taking her hand, to check if she is cold or how warm and gentle her hands are, and yours are “frozen” at this time.
Of course there will be “checks” from her on men’s steel “bells”. You respond to her claims with a smile and calmly: I couldn’t resist; I like you; I don’t want to restrain myself from touching you. Friend, if you have created her comfort from your company, and she allows you into her personal space (and this, as we remember, in front is the distance of an outstretched arm, on the side - the width of a palm, and in the back - a distance equal to the height of a person) then no there won't be any problems.
It's the same song with kisses. Start getting closer to her, whisper something in her ear, kiss him on the cheek, and when she turns around, kiss her on the lips. If you see that she herself wants to kiss and is excited, kiss her right away.
She dodges, pretend that nothing happened, and work on her condition. The association with a soldering iron comes to mind, may the ladies forgive me - as long as it’s cold, it won’t do any good.
Never ask permission to kiss her or take her hand. How afraid they are of such questions, and how your shares will fall, according to the principle of the DJIA index after 09/11/2001, it is better to never know.
The bottom line: warm it up for close maneuvers, but don't let it sizzle. 🙄
Summary
I know, I’m already tired of reading, so I’m starting to finish. I tried not to repeat too much with one of our conversations, where you, so you can see additional points there. Plus, I left a few interesting tips for our next conversations about specifically the first and second dates, so in order not to miss them and I have an incentive not to put off the conversation, join the group on VK and show interest in the topic in the comments , and behind me, as people say, it will not rust. 💡
To organize the information, here is a short summary of how to behave:
- More original compliments.
- The game "closer-further".
- If you want to do something, do it! But first, gain her trust and interest in you.
- Touch a girl casually, and “mean it” when you see that she wants it herself. You will be desirable to her when you give comfort and emotions in the right proportion.
- There will be a lot of checks from her.
- Women feel when they are genuinely liked and relax.
All! It's enough for today. Re-read, accept, understand, try, share your experience and feedback. Good luck with your dating, and remember: a happy family begins with the first impression. All the best to you and your family!
It is very important to decide for yourself where to go on a first date with a girl. There must be a clear understanding of where to spend it.
Choose a place where YOU like first of all
You must know the very locations and places where you will have a great time with her. YOU should be cool first of all, and your condition will be passed on to the girl. Because everything you feel, she feels.
And she won't be able to refuse
Having a clear idea of where to go on a first date, and what will you do there, you will have self-confidence.
Even when you call her and ask her, for example, to bungee jump, she will feel your passion and emotion in what you say. Because you like it.
Your motivation to go on a date with you will be transmitted to the girl. Both of you will have eagerness and pleasant anticipation before the meeting.
Good places to meet
Deserted beach
I like to have a date with a girl on a deserted beach Volga. There are almost no people there and there is a small beach. I take with me something in advance to lie on.
We hug and lie there with the girl, looking at the waves, at the birds, at the ships. We look at each other, massage, communicate. In warm weather, you can sunbathe together.
Amusement park
My other favorite place for a date is a summer park. It fills me with childhood memories. There are big rides that will leave both of you feeling high.
I'm not saying ride a roller coaster. Attractions will give emotions and drive, will help you get closer, will create some kind of history between you.
I walked in this park as a child, I always liked it and that’s why it’s all the more special for me. If I like it in this park, the girl will like it there a priori.
Riding a trolley in a supermarket
Great place to go on a date - it's riding carts around the supermarket. When I'm with a girl, I sit her down.
We can choose products, or we can just enjoy the trip.
The route through the hypermarket is always spontaneous and funny. It gives you a childlike pleasant feeling of fun.
In one supermarket they already know me well. I got a couple of mild warnings, but that doesn't stop me :)
Go choose groceries together
I had a date with a girl who lives near my house. We went on our first date together to the supermarket to buy cookies. This is also a good reason to see each other.
When you change locations and move with a girl, you create a certain relationship history, a special connection is created. Therefore, it is very important not to sit and get stuck in one place.
Errors
Will it’s stupid to go to a cafe, sit opposite each other and eat something b. No one will hug anyone, just talk and food. Always sit next to me.
Play your favorite sport together
There were girls who called me to skydive. They know that I am adventurous and love to challenge fear.
You can invite a girl to play your favorite sport. For example, go for a run together in the evening.
Some people like it rope jumping, skating, swimming or just sitting in a cafe and drink tea together. To each his own.
The place where you like and where you feel comfortable is the best place for a date.
Touch her from the start
Touch the girl more from the start your meeting. This is what you should do on a first date from the very beginning.
If you hug her initially, then she will get used to it and it will be normal for her. She'll think: " Yes, it's okay to hug and touch with this guy. There's nothing wrong with this" Behave naturally, be yourself. This is the very behavior of a man that you need.
How to behave correctly on a first date with a girl:
If you made the mistake of not touching or hugging the girl from the very beginning, then later it will be somehow strange and awkward for both of you. There will be resistance on her part! Therefore, make it easier for yourself to get closer to a girl - touch and hug her from the very beginning. Touch her because you want to, not because she likes it.
If you do everything as I described in the article, then there will be no more questions about how to behave on a first date with a girl.
Top 5 super rules for dating a beautiful girl.
Forget about the perfect date
Know that a first date with a girl will never be smooth and perfect. There will always be some element of chance.
There will always be things that happen that are beyond your control. You can't calculate everything in advance. That's why don't worry about perfection.
Let go of expectations: everything will happen by itself
Let things happen. The perfect date is the one that comes naturally. There is no need to make any guesses or expect anything.. Spontaneity is your best friend.
It's normal to not know what to say. Never strive to have the perfect date. Let it turn out the way it turns out.
You experience failure when you want to experience luck. If you do not set such a goal, any negative reactions do not concern you.
When a date is too ideal and smooth, it’s very boring and uninteresting.
Don't buy flowers
I have never bought flowers for a first date with a girl in my life!
If you give flowers on a first date, you're ruining everything for yourself because:
- it will be harder to touch her;
- she will act arrogantly in relation to you;
- it won't be open you;
- you yourself put her on a pedestal, above yourself.
Understand that on the first date you can just spend time with her and that's enough. No gifts or flowers are needed.
Video of my approach
In the next video, I approached a girl who was initially talking to someone on the phone.
I interrupted her communication and led her along. I didn't wait for her to hang up.
The way a guy touches a girl, whether he touches her confidently or dominantly, is not particularly important. In my video I advise you to pay attention to other subtle points.
By the way, many guys would wait for the girl to finish on the phone. But that’s not interesting. See all the details of my acquaintance in this video.
If she says buy me this, buy me that
You say: “No, don’t wait. I like you! I'm not going to pay for you. I like you, I want you, I can give you a lot of pleasure! But this does not mean that I am your sponsor! I'm honest with you."
And that’s it, she immediately understands: “ Oh, that's what a man is. Everything is clear now.”
She will not demand gifts and other things.
You let her know who you are.
That's all. This is an excellent start to any relationship where everything is built on sincerity.
The beginning of a relationship without lies, where a woman is not trying to suck money out of a man, and the man is not trying to buy a woman.
I'm not ready for my behavior to keep the 22-year-old beauty attracted to me!
What you can talk about with a girl on the first date - detailed article.
: how to hug a girl correctly.
For the first kiss, suck in without words + video of a guy passionately kissing a girl.
The right approach to dating
Advanced guys never say they are going on a “date with a girl.”
The word “date” greatly limits your perception of meeting her.: as if there will be something official like a candlelit dinner, rose petals, fireworks and other heresy. All this will constrain you and interfere with you. Why limit yourself?
Tell yourself: I’m not going on a date, but to “see a girl,” “spend time with a girl,” “enjoy communication with a girl.” You go to meet and “find out whether you are suitable for each other or not.”
Exactly this type of thinking will allow you to be yourself and liberate yourself. You won't feel much responsibility or importance of the meeting.
You are already self-sufficient and there is no reason otherwise.
Men have problems understanding what, who they are now is enough.
There's no reason to be insecure.
You exist - that's enough.
All this knowledge will give you an understanding of how to have the best first date with a girl and get results.
Call a girl and put everything you learned from the article into practice.
You can also get other secrets of seducing women and meeting them by signing up for individual training with me.
Be prepared to make decisions. If the person you're going on a date with asks you about where you want to hang out, don't be afraid to voice your opinion. Most likely, in this way he shows attention to you, offering to make his choice. Show that you can make decisions.
Choose an activity during which you can interact with a person. For example, watching a movie together is not a good idea because you won't have the opportunity to get to know the person better. Have a cup of coffee together or visit a museum. Make time for communication.
Be punctual. Being late means that you do not value time and the person you made wait. Therefore, arrive on your date on time or a little earlier than the appointed time.
Don't be indifferent. If you show indifference or indifference, you are unlikely to develop a close relationship with the person. Just be yourself. Don't be afraid to show emotions.
- For example, if a person invites you to the cinema, you should not limit yourself to just the following phrase: “I liked this movie.” Don't be afraid to show your enthusiasm. You can say: "I really liked this movie! The main character in the movie was amazing!"
Turn off your phone. Unless you're a doctor who needs to be always available, you can get by without your phone during a date. Show the person that you value his time and the attention he shows to you. You can do this if you are not distracted by phone calls or messages.
Take a deep breath. If you're too stressed, the person you're going on a date with will definitely feel it. Take a moment to relax. Enjoy communicating with this person.
Have a good time. The date should take place in a pleasant and fun atmosphere. If you enjoy communication, then your companion will certainly be pleased with the time spent with you.
Listen at least as much as you speak. The art of listening is equivalent to the art of speaking well. Therefore, listen to your interlocutor. Try to hear what your companion wants to convey to you. At this time, you should not think about what you will say next. When you answer your interlocutor, show that you are listening carefully.
- If your date says that he likes to garden, don't respond by saying that you are far from it. Ask questions related to what the person is interested in. For example, you could ask, "Really? What do you like to grow? Do you have a big garden?"
