Whether you guessed right or not, it doesn't really matter. In both cases, you have received important information about what you are unable to perceive and whether the content of your hallucinations matches what you perceive. As you continue to train as you have been doing, you may notice when communicating with your client or loved one that the answers you receive from them are not what you would like. If you accept this as a sign that what you are doing is not working and change your behavior, then something else will happen. If you lead in the same way, you will continue to receive what you had in practice, then you will get from this seminar as much as people have never received before. For some reason, putting this statement into practice is the hardest thing in the world; the meaning of your communication is the response you receive. If you notice that you are not getting what you want, change your action.
But to notice this, you must clearly distinguish what you receive from the outside from how you interpret this material on a subconscious level, mixing in your inner state.
The exercise we are about to perform is limited to only one sensory channel. The exercise was meant to help you think of sensory experiences as visual output. Holding your partner's hand will provide certain kinesthetic information. You can extend this exercise to the auditory system as well. Then A must close his eyes, and B must describe his experiences with sounds, but without words. The pitch and tempo of the scale will be different, and since A's eyes will be closed, he will have only sensory input - auditory.
Or you may be thinking about a particular experience and talking about cooking dinner. This happens quite often in married couples. He creates an image for himself of how his wife is cheating on him and then they talk about how they could go out into nature. He says: (angrily) “I wish I could go out with you, we would have a great time, and I would take an ax to chop a lot of wood.”
What else married couples do is “fight.” Do you know about quotation marks? This is a wonderful stereotype. If you have clients with unspoken aggression, against their bosses, for example, and they can't really express it because it would be inappropriate (or they might get kicked out afterwards), then teach them the quotation stereotype. This is great, because your client can go to his boss and say: “Some person just stepped on my foot on the street and said: ‘You stupid brat.’ And I knew what to answer him. What would you do if someone called you a stupid brat? Just like that, right on the street? „ People hardly know meta-levels if you distract their attention with content, I once gave a lecture to a group of psychologists who were very touchy and asked a lot of stupid questions, I told them about the stereotype of quotation marks. Then I gave an example - and even said that I do like M. Erickson told me how he stopped at a turkey farm, the turkeys were terribly noisy and at night he even woke up from this noise, not knowing what to do. One day he left the house, and I turned to face all the psychologists - and saw that I was surrounded on all sides by turkeys, hundreds of turkeys. Turkeys here, turkeys there, turkeys everywhere. And he looked at them and said, “You turkeys.” two people in that audience understood what I was doing and were shocked to the point of numbness. I stood on stage in front of these people who paid me with their attention and said: “You are turkeys” and they did not know what to do. They sat and nodded their heads seriously.
If you are congruent, then they won’t know if you distract people with interesting content, then you can experiment with any stereotype. When I said: “Now I will tell a story about Milton,” everyone looked for the “space of content” and drowned there.
In the middle of my story, I even turned away and laughed restrainedly, then I turned back and finished my story. They thought it was - strange behavior or they explained this by saying that I was preparing them for the funniest part of the story. (Milton turned away and laughed). At the end of the day, these people would come up to me and say, “I want to tell you how important this was to me,” and I would say, “Thank you. Have you heard the story about Milton? I wouldn't want you to think that this story is about you! “You can train any new behavior and it will look like it’s not you doing it, quotes give you more freedom to experiment to achieve behavioral flexibility
Because this means that you can do literally anything. I can walk into a restaurant, walk up to the waiter and say, “I walked into the washroom and this guy came up and said wink,” and see what happens next. She will wink, and I will say: “Isn’t it strange? „ And he will go away. It wasn't me, so I don't have to worry about it - it's a good technique for the hobby of personal freedom. You may no longer be responsible for your behavior because it is “someone else’s behavior.”
At a conference for psychiatrists, I walked up to someone and said, “I was just in a lecture with Dr. X, and he did something that I have never seen anyone do. He walked up to one person, picked him up by the hands like this, and said, “Look at this hand, then I did a hypnotic suggestion and put this person into a hypnotic state. Then I slapped him on the stomach to bring him out of this state and said: “He does strange things, doesn’t he? “He replied: “Yes, of course, he shouldn’t have allowed himself anything like that, should you?” "Oh, never! "
He never answered.
Quotes also work great in family therapy When family members are competitive, constantly arguing, and not listening to each other and the therapists, you can lean in and say, “I'm glad I'm dealing with such a responsible family now, because when I worked with the previous family, I had to look at everyone and say: “Shut your mouth!” “This is what I had to tell them: “This reminds me of the group we led in San Diego. About 150 people gathered there and we told them: “The next thing we want to tell you about is how couples compete.”
“Well, if you told me that, do you know what I would answer? “ “Well, if you told me that I had to do this, I would tell you to go to hell! “ “Listen, if you ever told me this, I would take it anyway...” The only unpleasant thing is that the quotes are soon lost and the couple moves on to a real fight. Most of you are familiar with quotes from family therapy. You ask: “How are you? “and if they don’t start arguing right away, they do it in quotation marks, then lose them and argue for real. All nonverbal counterparts support this. Quotation marks are a dissociative stereotype, and when the dissociation is broken, quotation marks come.
Sadness usually represents a similar stereotype. A sad person does the following: he creates a CONSTRUCTED visual image and sees, for example, himself together with a loved one who has died, left, or otherwise become unavailable. The reaction called "sadness" or "feeling of loss" is a complex reaction to dissociation, one's separation from those memories. He sees himself together with his beloved, remembers this wonderful time and feels empty, because he is NOT NOW INSIDE THIS PICTURE. If he were to go inside this very picture that stimulates sadness, he would discover in himself the very kinesthetic feelings that he shared with the one he lost. This could serve as a resource for him to construct something new in his life, instead of being a trigger for melancholy and sadness.
Vina works a little differently. There are many ways to feel guilty. The best way of all is to create an image of a person's face at the moment when you did something unpleasant to him. This is a visual eidetic image. So you can feel guilty about anything. But if you come out of this picture, in other words, turn around the procedure that we did with sadness, then stop feeling guilty, because you will literally see everything in a new way and get a new perspective.
It sounds very simple, doesn't it? This is very simple.
PREFACE
Twenty years ago, when I was an undergraduate student, I studied pedagogy, psychotherapy and other methods of managing personality development from Abraham Maslow. After 10 years, I met Franz Persl and began to practice Gestalt therapy, which seemed to me more effective than other methods. Nowadays I find that certain methods are effective when working with certain people who have certain problems.
Most methods promise more than they can deliver, and most theories have little relation to the methods they describe.
When I first became acquainted with neuro-linguistic programming, I was simply fascinated, but at the same time very skeptical. At that time, I firmly believed that personal development was slow, difficult and painful.
I could hardly believe that I could cure a phobia, and other similar mental disorders, in a short time of less than an hour, even though I had done it many times and found that the results were lasting. Everything you will find in this book is presented simply and clearly and can be easily tested on your own experience. There are no tricks here and you are not required to convert to a new faith. One thing is required of you
– move away somewhat from your own beliefs, setting them aside for the time necessary to test the concept and procedures of NLP on your own sensory experience. It won't take long - most of our statements can be verified in a few minutes or a few hours. If you are skeptical, as I was at one time, then it is thanks to your skepticism that you will check our statements in order to understand that the method solves the same complex tasks for which it is intended.
NLP is a clear and effective model of human inner experience and communication. Using the principles of NLP, it is possible to describe any human activity in a very detailed way, which allows you to easily and quickly make deep and lasting changes in this activity.
Here are some of the things you can learn to do:
1. Cure phobia and others discomfort in less than an hour.
2. Help low-learning children and adults overcome their respective limitations – often in less than an hour.
3. Eliminate unwanted habits - smoking, drinking, overeating, insomnia - in several sessions.
4. Make changes in the interactions that take place in couples, families and organizations so that they function more productively.
5. Heal somatic diseases (and not only those that are considered “psychosomatic”) in several sessions.
Thus, NLP makes many claims, but experienced practitioners use this method, realize these claims, achieving tangible results. NLP in its current state can do a lot, faster, but not everything. ... if you want to learn everything that we have listed, you can devote some time to it. There are many things we cannot do. If you can program yourself to find something useful in this book instead of looking for cases where our method does not find application, then you will certainly encounter such cases.
If you use this method honestly, you will find many cases where it does not work. In these cases, I recommend using something else.
NLP has only 4 years of existence, and the most valuable discoveries were made in Last year or two.
We have started a list of areas application of NLP. And we are very, very serious about our method. The only thing we are doing now is researching how this information can be used. We were unable to exhaust the variety of ways to use this information and found some limitations. During this workshop, we demonstrated dozens of ways to use this information. First of all, it is structured by internal experience.
Used systematically, this information makes it possible to create an entire strategy for achieving any behavior modification.
Currently, the possibilities of NLP are much wider than we have listed in our five points. The same principles can be used to study people gifted with any outstanding abilities in order to determine these abilities. Knowing this structure, one can act as effectively as these people with extraordinary abilities. This type of intervention results in generative changes through which people learn to create new talents and new behaviors. Side effect Such generative changes are the disappearance of deviant behavior, which otherwise could be the subject of special psychotherapeutic intervention.
In a sense, the achievements of NLP are not new, there have always been “spontaneous remissions”, “unexplained cures”, and there have always been people who could use their abilities in an extraordinary way.
English thrushes had immunity to smallpox long before Dennener invented his vaccine; smallpox, which claimed thousands of lives every year, has now disappeared from the face of the earth. Just like NLP can eliminate many difficulties and dangers present lives and make learning and behavior modification an easier, more productive and exciting process. Thus we are on the threshold of a quantum leap in the development of experience and ability.
What is truly new about NLP is that it makes it possible to know exactly what needs to be done and an idea of how to do it.
Richard Bandler John Grinder
Richard Bandler, John Grinder. "From frogs to princes."
This book is an edited transcript of an introductory course NLP training, which was carried out by R. Bandler and D. Grinder in January 1978.
PREFACE
Twenty years ago, when I was an undergraduate student, I studied pedagogy, psychotherapy and other methods of managing personality development from Abraham Maslow. After 10 years, I met Franz Persl and began to practice Gestalt therapy, which seemed to me more effective than other methods. Nowadays I find that certain methods are effective when working with certain people who have certain problems.
Most methods promise more than they can deliver, and most theories have little relation to the methods they describe.
When I first became acquainted with neuro-linguistic programming, I was simply fascinated, but at the same time very skeptical. At that time, I firmly believed that personal development was slow, difficult and painful.
I could hardly believe that I could cure a phobia, and other similar mental disorders, in a short time of less than an hour, even though I had done it many times and found that the results were lasting. Everything you will find in this book is presented simply and clearly and can be easily verified in your own experience. There are no tricks here and you are not required to convert to a new faith. One thing is required of you
Move away somewhat from your own beliefs, setting them aside for the time necessary to test the concepts and procedures of NLP in your own sensory experience. It won't take long - most of our statements can be verified in a few minutes or a few hours. If you are skeptical, as I was at one time, then it is thanks to your skepticism that you will check our claims to understand that the method solves the same complex problems for which it is intended.
NLP is a clear and effective model of human inner experience and communication. Using the principles of NLP, it is possible to describe any human activity in a very detailed way, which allows you to easily and quickly make deep and lasting changes in this activity.
Here are some of the things you can learn to do:
1. Cure phobias and other unpleasant sensations in less than an hour.
2. Help low-learning children and adults overcome their respective limitations - often in less than an hour.
3. Eliminate unwanted habits - smoking, drinking, overeating, insomnia - in several sessions.
4. Make changes in the interactions that take place in couples, families and organizations so that they function more productively.
5. Heal somatic diseases (and not only those that are considered “psychosomatic”) in several sessions.
Thus, NLP makes many claims, but experienced practitioners use this method, realize these claims, achieving tangible results. NLP in its current state can do a lot, faster, but not everything. ... if you want to learn everything that we have listed, you can devote some time to it. There are many things we cannot do. If you can program yourself to find something useful in this book instead of looking for cases where our method does not find application, then you will certainly encounter such cases.
If you use this method honestly, you will find many cases where it does not work. In these cases, I recommend using something else.
NLP is only 4 years old, and the most valuable discoveries have been made in the last year or two.
We have started a list of areas of application of NLP. And we are very, very serious about our method. The only thing we are doing now is researching how this information can be used. We were unable to exhaust the variety of ways to use this information and found some limitations. During this workshop, we demonstrated dozens of ways to use this information. First of all, it is structured by internal experience.
Used systematically, this information makes it possible to create an entire strategy for achieving any behavior modification.
Currently, the possibilities of NLP are much wider than we have listed in our five points. The same principles can be used to study people gifted with any outstanding abilities in order to determine these abilities. Knowing this structure, one can act as effectively as these people with extraordinary abilities. This type of intervention results in generative changes through which people learn to create new talents and new behaviors. A side effect of such generative changes is the disappearance of deviant behavior, which might otherwise be the subject of special psychotherapeutic intervention.
In a sense, the achievements of NLP are not new, there have always been “spontaneous remissions”, “unexplained cures”, and there have always been people who could use their abilities in an extraordinary way.
English thrushes had immunity to smallpox long before Dennener invented his vaccine; smallpox, which claimed thousands of lives every year, has now disappeared from the face of the earth. Just like NLP can eliminate many of the difficulties and dangers of present lives and make learning and behavior modification an easier, more productive and exciting process. Thus we are on the threshold of a quantum leap in the development of experience and ability.
What is truly new about NLP is that it makes it possible to know exactly what needs to be done and an idea of how to do it.
John O. Stevens
REFERENCE
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is new model human communication and behavior, which has been developed in the last 4 years thanks to the work of Richard Bandler, John Grinder, Leslie Cameron-Bandler and Judith Delozier. In its origins, neurolinguistic programming developed on the basis of the study of reality by V. Satir, M. Erickson, F. Persl and other psychotherapeutic “luminaries”.
This book is an edited transcript of an introductory NLP training course conducted by R. Bandler and D. Grinder. This course was held in January 1978. Some of the materials are taken from tape recordings from other seminars. The entire book is organized as a recording of a 3-day workshop. For simplicity and ease of perception of the text, most of the statements of Bandler and Grinder are given simply in text form without indicating names.
SENSORY EXPERIENCE
Our workshop differs from other workshops on communication and psychotherapy in several ways: existing parameters. When we started our research, we observed the activities of people doing their job brilliantly, after which they tried to explain what they were doing with the help of metaphors. They called these attempts theorizing. They can tell stories about a million holes and penetrations into the depths, you can learn that a person is like a circle to which different sides numerous pipes and the like are directed. Most of these metaphors allow a person to know what to do and how to do it.
Some organize workshops where you can watch and hear a person competent in so-called “professional communication”, such a person will demonstrate to you that he really knows how to do certain things. If you are lucky and can keep your sensory apparatus open, you will learn to do certain things.
There is also a certain group of people called theorists. They will tell you about their beliefs. Regarding the true nature of man, about what an “open, adapted, aukinic, spontaneous”, etc., man should be, but they will not show how anything can be done.
Most of the knowledge in psychology today is structured in such a way that it mixes what we call “modeling” with what is usually called theory, and we consider etiology. The description of what people do is confused with the description of what reality itself is like. When you mix experience with theory and package it all together, you get psychotheology. Which is developed in a system of religious beliefs, each of which is headed by its own powerful evangelist.
Another strange thing in psychology is the mass of people who call themselves “researchers” and have virtually no connection with psychologists! Somehow it happens that researchers do not produce information for practitioners. In medicine the situation is different. There, researchers structure their research in such a way that their findings can help practitioners in their actual practice. And practitioners actively respond to researchers, telling them what knowledge they need.
The next important feature characterizing psychotherapists is that they come to psychotherapy with ready-made set subconscious stereotypes, which gives a huge probability of failure in their activities.
When a psychotherapist begins work, he is primarily determined to look for inadequacy in the content. They want to know what the problem is so they can help the person find a solution. This always happens and that's exactly...
PREFACE
Twenty years ago, when I was an undergraduate student, I studied pedagogy, psychotherapy and other methods of managing personality development from Abraham Maslow. After 10 years, I met Franz Persl and began to practice Gestalt therapy, which seemed to me more effective than other methods. Nowadays I find that certain methods are effective when working with certain people who have certain problems.
Most methods promise more than they can deliver, and most theories have little relation to the methods they describe.
When I first became acquainted with neuro-linguistic programming, I was simply fascinated, but at the same time very skeptical. At that time, I firmly believed that personal development was slow, difficult and painful.
I could hardly believe that I could cure a phobia, and other similar mental disorders, in a short time of less than an hour, even though I had done it many times and found that the results were lasting. Everything you will find in this book is presented simply and clearly and can be easily verified in your own experience. There are no tricks here and you are not required to convert to a new faith. One thing is required of you
– move away somewhat from your own beliefs, setting them aside for the time necessary to test the concept and procedures of NLP on your own sensory experience. It won't take long - most of our statements can be verified in a few minutes or a few hours. If you are skeptical, as I was at one time, then it is thanks to your skepticism that you will check our claims to understand that the method solves the same complex problems for which it is intended.
NLP is a clear and effective model of human inner experience and communication. Using the principles of NLP, it is possible to describe any human activity in a very detailed way, which allows you to easily and quickly make deep and lasting changes in this activity.
Here are some of the things you can learn to do:
1. Cure phobias and other unpleasant sensations in less than an hour.
2. Help low-learning children and adults overcome their respective limitations – often in less than an hour.
3. Eliminate unwanted habits - smoking, drinking, overeating, insomnia - in several sessions.
4. Make changes in the interactions that take place in couples, families and organizations so that they function more productively.
5. Heal somatic diseases (and not only those that are considered “psychosomatic”) in several sessions.
Thus, NLP makes many claims, but experienced practitioners use this method, realize these claims, achieving tangible results. NLP in its current state can do a lot, faster, but not everything. ... if you want to learn everything that we have listed, you can devote some time to it. There are many things we cannot do. If you can program yourself to find something useful in this book instead of looking for cases where our method does not find application, then you will certainly encounter such cases.
If you use this method honestly, you will find many cases where it does not work. In these cases, I recommend using something else.
NLP is only 4 years old, and the most valuable discoveries have been made in the last year or two.
We have started a list of areas of application of NLP. And we are very, very serious about our method. The only thing we are doing now is researching how this information can be used. We were unable to exhaust the variety of ways to use this information and found some limitations. During this workshop, we demonstrated dozens of ways to use this information. First of all, it is structured by internal experience.
Used systematically, this information makes it possible to create an entire strategy for achieving any behavior modification.
Currently, the possibilities of NLP are much wider than we have listed in our five points. The same principles can be used to study people gifted with any outstanding abilities in order to determine these abilities. Knowing this structure, one can act as effectively as these people with extraordinary abilities. This type of intervention results in generative changes through which people learn to create new talents and new behaviors. A side effect of such generative changes is the disappearance of deviant behavior, which might otherwise be the subject of special psychotherapeutic intervention.
In a sense, the achievements of NLP are not new, there have always been “spontaneous remissions”, “unexplained cures”, and there have always been people who could use their abilities in an extraordinary way.
English thrushes had immunity to smallpox long before Dennener invented his vaccine; smallpox, which claimed thousands of lives every year, has now disappeared from the face of the earth. Just like NLP can eliminate many of the difficulties and dangers of present lives and make learning and behavior modification an easier, more productive and exciting process. Thus we are on the threshold of a quantum leap in the development of experience and ability.
What is truly new about NLP is that it makes it possible to know exactly what needs to be done and an idea of how to do it.
John O. Stevens
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a new model of human communication and behavior that has been developed in the last 4 years, thanks to the work of Richard Bandler, John Grinder, Leslie Cameron-Bandler and Judith Delozier. In its origins, neurolinguistic programming developed on the basis of the study of reality by V. Satir, M. Erickson, F. Persl and other psychotherapeutic “luminaries”.
This book is an edited transcript of an introductory NLP training course conducted by R. Bandler and D. Grinder. This course was held in January 1978. Some of the materials are taken from tape recordings from other seminars. The entire book is organized as a recording of a 3-day workshop. For simplicity and ease of perception of the text, most of the statements of Bandler and Grinder are given simply in text form without indicating names.
SENSORY EXPERIENCE
Our workshop differs from other workshops on communication and psychotherapy in several existing parameters. When we started our research, we observed the activities of people doing their job brilliantly, after which they tried to explain what they were doing with the help of metaphors. They called these attempts theorizing. They can tell stories of a million holes and
